DARK/LIGHT...SKIN COLOR.........Is this still an issue? Let's be honest Sorors & SF'

[IOTA-4A'88F]

Originally Posted by NappyBison

I loathe the comparison of "good hair vs bad hair". As if a difference in skin tone didn't cause enough drama, we have to be judgemental about our beautiful hair too As long as you're blessed to have hair on your head it's good IMO.

Dang, I have no hair on my head... now I am feeling bad

Just kiddin'

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by IOTA-4A'88F

Dang, I have no hair on my head... now I am feeling bad

Just kiddin'

Bald head? Woohoo!!!!

When we discuss issues of hair as linked to color, it's usually women discussing it. I have found that men also get into the "good hair" thing. I recall one dude who definitely played up his curly hair and another dude who had been told all of his adulthood that he was "good for breeding" because of his straight hair and light grey eyes.

What's up with wave caps, btw? LOL.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Bald head? Woohoo!!!!

When we discuss issues of hair as linked to color, it's usually women discussing it. I have found that men also get into the "good hair" thing. I recall one dude who definitely played his curly hair and another dude who had been told all of his adulthood that he was "good for breeding" because of his straight hair and light grey eyes.

I think more women discuss it because men discuss it, as in "good hair" is what they prefer their women to have. Men are very into the whole "good" hair vs. "bad" hair thing but not for themselves, for women. No one knows more about this than our "happy to be nappy" sistas who went from permed hair to natural and watched many of the men that used to try and holla before, suddenly stop.

I used to wear my hair natural and I got compliments from women all the time who would say, "I wish I could do that" and when I asked them why they felt they couldn't, they would say it was because the men in their lives wouldn't like it or because they didn't think that men would like it.

[IOTA-4A'88F]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Bald head? Woohoo!!!!

When we discuss issues of hair as linked to color, it's usually women discussing it. I have found that men also get into the "good hair" thing. I recall one dude who definitely played up his curly hair and another dude who had been told all of his adulthood that he was "good for breeding" because of his straight hair and light grey eyes.

What's up with wave caps, btw? LOL.

OK, first off, a brother don't know how to multi-quote so forgive me for the two and three quotes instead of just one... and nope, don't need to learn how.... cause a brother would become a multi-quote fiend... sheesh.

Now, the wave caps, I used to rock em, had the flyest waves, but the biggest forehead ring... not a good look, Son.

Men will only really comment if the hair is out of the ordinary... locs (styled), mo-hawk, dyed. I know when I had locs for seventeen years, 98% of the comments came from women. That 2% came from those within my circle from when I cut it or just twisted it myself. When I went "baldilocks", the brothers only commented on the extreme.

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Bald head? Woohoo!!!!

When we discuss issues of hair as linked to color, it's usually women discussing it. I have found that men also get into the "good hair" thing. I recall one dude who definitely played up his curly hair and another dude who had been told all of his adulthood that he was "good for breeding" because of his straight hair and light grey eyes.

What's up with wave caps, btw? LOL.

I don't think there's anything wrong with wave caps or using gels and creams to enhance your waves or curls. Waves and Curls are pretty (not that other textures aren't) and if you have them and want to enhance them, I see nothing wrong with it as long as you don't get caught up in curly/wavy hair being the only textures that are beautiful. My mom used to always say that "good" hair is healthy, maintained hair.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I don't think there's anything wrong with wave caps or using gels and creams to enhance your waves or curls. Waves and Curls are pretty (not that other textures aren't) and if you have them and want to enhance them, I see nothing wrong with it as long as you don't get caught up in curly/wavy hair being the only textures that are beautiful. My mom used to always say that "good" hair is healthy, maintained hair.

Oh I agree that there's nothing wrong. My mom also taught me that healthy hair is "good" hair.

I just remember when I was little and dudes who didn't have wavy or curly hair were struggling to make it happen with the wave cap and thick arse grease. Obsessed over it.

[NappyBison]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I don't think there's anything wrong with wave caps or using gels and creams to enhance your waves or curls. Waves and Curls are pretty (not that other textures aren't) and if you have them and want to enhance them, I see nothing wrong with it as long as you don't get caught up in curly/wavy hair being the only textures that are beautiful. My mom used to always say that "good" hair is healthy, maintained hair.

I like that

Kids will pick up on any and everything, especially negative ideals that tend to be passed down. Darker images do tend to coincide with darker colors as was stated earlier, so it's not hard to see why people will willingly accept that darker skin color is associated with ugliness, imperfection, etc. I know many people don't think Grace Jones or Alec Wek are "pretty" but I find both of them to be gorgeous. But then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder so let the tone wars continue