What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by centaur532

What about tattoos? How do those make a woman look? By the way I do come from a good, stable home where I was taught respect, compassion, discipline, love etc. I was also taught to express myself. Tattoos are another way of doing that. Tattoos can be trashy and classless but they can also be exquisite works of art.
I'm glad I've never dated someone who would break up with me over something as shallow as appearance.

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

[Scandia]

Tattoos per se to me are a yellow flag. Tattoos in places visible while wearing casual clothes are a red flag. Tacky and large tattoos are a red flag as well. A small, discreet tattoo in a place that would only be seen by your spouse, your doctor, or at most at the beach if you are wearing a speedo, would be only at the yellow flag level. But I dislike tattoos in general and would prefer my future spouse not have a single tattoo.

I like people really clean cut in general- no tattoos, body piercings, or hair dyed in unnatural or psychedelic colors or styled unnaturally. I know that not everybody who has a tattoo/body piercing/funky haircolor or hairdo is a badass or trying to appear like one- but that is what they end up looking like.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

Now see, this is where I agree with you. I have two tattoos and I will be getting a third when I can afford it. However, I have chosen to get them in places where they're not easily visible, because I don't think it's at all classy to have them showing all the time. My sister-in-law got a frog done on her shoulder and you can see them in the wedding pictures. I don't want that. Mine are and always will be discreet.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

When I was in college, I brought home this girl who wore an ankle bracelett, and dressed very provocative. She didn't have a tattoo, but the ankle bracelett and provocative clothing were enough to tell my parents she was not my type. The look on my parents faces, I knew right away they didn't approve. I was really young then, and decided to settle. Never again. She turned out to be very permiscuous. I can see girls like that coming a mile away now. I know what you mean about bringing certain girls home to meet the parents.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by macallan25

I really am not shallow when it come to dating......however.....I truly despise tatoos and wouldn't bring a girl home to my mother that has them. Now......if the girl was perhaps a Pi Phi and dicided to get a tiny arrow on her foot (completely unnoticeable) then that would be ok. But when you can see them plain as day or if they put a huge tramp stamp on their lower back......then I have a problem.

I am a Pi Phi and I have a carnation on my ankle. I also have 4 other tattoos that no one can see unless I am in my birthday suit.

I have a respectable career, I have an education, I came from a good family.

I think you'd be surprised how many women actually have tattoos. And unless you are jumping into bed with them on the first date, you would probably never know unless they told you.