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Originally Posted by Jen
The sorority members are going to be meeting SO MANY people during recruitment. They won't remember an awkward pause or a funny answer to a question when every PNM will be nervous. They'll probably have a bunch of awkward conversations during each round. If you have a not-so-great conversation, that's going to happen to a LOT of other people during the process, not just you.
Sorority members are just as nervous, if not more, than the PNMs. They practice for weeks and weeks to try and make the process as smooth and painless as possible for the women like you who want to join. They're just as invested in making a good impression and feel just as dumb if they have an awkward conversation or think they made a bad impression.
Not everyone will join. Some girls will drop out because it's not their thing, some will drop out because they weren't happy with the groups that invited them back, some will be cut because they didn't keep an open mind about all the groups and it showed. The biggest thing is to go in with a positive attitude and keep an open mind about every group that invites you back. You may not think you mesh with a group one day and then love them the next.
The thing is, you'll never be able to join a sorority if you don't go through recruitment. I feel like it's better to go through and see what happens than be thinking five years later "Man, I wish I'd gone for it and tried." The what ifs of having never done it are often way worse than the what ifs of something you're scared to do.
I speak from experience - living with social anxiety has kept me from trying a lot of things, and I really regret not trying things more than I regret the times I did try and things didn't work out.
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Everything you said was really helpful, especially the bolded! I just have to keep reminding myself of this. I keep kicking myself over stuff that happened at orientation that I don't think anyone else noticed. I need to let it go
I am absoluetly planning on going in with an open mind. I want to end up where I fit best. I've heard a few things about specific sororities, but I'm not letting it factor into my decision at all. There is only one sorority I'm planning on ranking low and it's because they are pretty new (within the last 5-10 years). My mom won't help me pay for a not established sorority. She thinks alumni relations are very important. Is she right or completely wrong?
Thanks so much for your response
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