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Originally Posted by kddani
That was kind of a jerk thing to do to your roommate/friend- you had tentative plans to go out with her then bailed to go hang out with people you barely know. I can see why she would feel alienated and upset. That's the absolute worst thing you can do is alienate and blow off your friends in favor of "new" friends.
Also, what on earth kind of music do you expect to be played in a mega-popular bar? Pop music is called that for a reason- it's popular. You can dance to Lady Gaga and Chris Brown.
It's good to hear that you're getting out of your comfort zone, but don't try to change into something or someone you're not. You'll never be happy, you won't keep the new friends and you'll lose the old friends. It's okay to make changes, but don't do a 180!
ETA: I don't mean to be so harsh, but I really felt for your roommate/friend when I read your post.
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When I say "tentative" plans I mean that it's what we do every Thursday night and she just expected me to go like I always do. I think "tentative" is the wrong word actually. It's more "this is what we do every Thursday and will do every Thursday from now until we graduate." So I just told her I was going to do something else and she got upset. I don't think I was in the wrong at all (I think I have the right to go do something different) but I knew she was going to be upset. Oh well.
I knew that's what they were going to be playing at the bar. I expected it. I wasn't expecting to hear A Sunny Day in Glasgow. I put aside my own tastes just to have fun with these people. And I did.
I think if I go through with this... my friends who are my real friends are going to stick by my and understand. But my "friends" who are really superficial are going to be really nasty behind my back. So whatever, I'm going to do whatever I want.
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