I Need Help!

VandalSquirrel · #1 10-09-2009, 04:16 PM

You remind me of someone I was best friends with all through junior high and high school, and how sanctimonious she came off (and why most of us stopped being her friend once we graduated). What you are saying how "I've never shopped at X and Y stores before" comes off rude. I haven't shopped their either, and I never will. I don't own any Lady Gaga but in the club (which I don't go to either) I'd jam to it.

It is almost like you have this farcical stereotype of sorority women and you have to try so hard to fit in with us, when you could just be yourself (though I'm not sure you're sure who that is) and still fit in. You're trying too hard and making it seem like it is a huge struggle and sacrifice for you, and trust that the sorority women will pick up on it.

We're not a homogenized monolith and a cult of personality, though there are trends at some schools that make us seem that way. The sooner you realize that and accept us as individuals, and yourself as you are, the happier you will be. If you're not comfortable with who you are, why should anyone else be?

I also suggest going to your campus counseling center because identity crises can be scary and you probably have crap going on in your life greater than sorority membership and how you definite yourself with clothes and music.

AZTheta · #2 10-09-2009, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

It is almost like you have this farcical stereotype of sorority women and you have to try so hard to fit in with us, when you could just be yourself (though I'm not sure you're sure who that is) and still fit in...

... If you're not comfortable with who you are, why should anyone else be?

I also suggest going to your campus counseling center because identity crises can be scary and you probably have crap going on in your life greater than sorority membership and how you definite yourself with clothes and music.

Very well put, VandalSquirrel.

I reiterate: a sorority is not a panacea for fixing what's going on inside.

Neither are Internet boards/forums.

again, good luck to you on your journey.

KSUViolet06 · #3 10-09-2009, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

You remind me of someone I was best friends with all through junior high and high school, and how sanctimonious she came off (and why most of us stopped being her friend once we graduated). What you are saying how "I've never shopped at X and Y stores before" comes off rude. I haven't shopped their either, and I never will. I don't own any Lady Gaga but in the club (which I don't go to either) I'd jam to it.

It is almost like you have this farcical stereotype of sorority women and you have to try so hard to fit in with us, when you could just be yourself (though I'm not sure you're sure who that is) and still fit in. You're trying too hard and making it seem like it is a huge struggle and sacrifice for you, and trust that the sorority women will pick up on it.

We're not a homogenized monolith and a cult of personality, though there are trends at some schools that make us seem that way. The sooner you realize that and accept us as individuals, and yourself as you are, the happier you will be. If you're not comfortable with who you are, why should anyone else be?

I also suggest going to your campus counseling center because identity crises can be scary and you probably have crap going on in your life greater than sorority membership and how you definite yourself with clothes and music.

Thank you.

VandalSquirrel · #4 10-09-2009, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Thank you.

I just noticed my spelling and grammar errors, giving up coffee is rough!

What's the RuPaul saying from Drag Race? "If you don't love yourself how in the hell are you going to love someone else?" same thing here.