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Originally Posted by UGAalum94
Please explain.
ETA: I'm just thinking about this more. Do you think it is normal in the sense of being in the statistical middle to want to have this kind of encounter if you are female? Do you think the majority of women who would consent are healthy and unimpaired? Or is it egocentric of me to assume that it would be a positive thing generally if people didn't try to have sex with people when that sex was likely to be harmful to the other person?
Or is it just my easy willingness to pass judgment of other people's sexual behavior?
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Much more the second than the first - I'll agree that the woman has a higher-than-average chance of having "issues" of some sort, but that's all the further I'm willing to go. It's clear you're OK with going further - that's fine, and it's certainly your right, but to me that seems unnecessarily judgmental, even borderline evangelical.
Sexual mores are a snake basket - it's just so easy to run them right into religious, ethical and personal beliefs that may or may not apply. We don't know at all whether a five-dude gangbang is actually 'harmful' for this woman - we don't know what she enjoys, where her sexual preferences lie, or to what extent she believes this was actually an assault. We don't have much, if any, insight into her internal motivation - so applying our own motives to it seems, well, egocentric. As if that's the "only" or "best" way. I don't mean that to be insulting to you at all - we all do it, to an extent - but I'm not particularly a fan, especially for something like sex, where social conditioning is so strong.
The notion of sexual 'deviance' as indicative of personal, ethical or religious short-comings is, in many ways, a self-fulfilling prophecy - one driven, historically, by institutions and constructs that seek to keep sexuality in the forefront, but control it to some advantage. I'd prefer to let it stay in the bedroom, and judge this woman based on her actions afterward, which seem much more relevant and open to analysis.
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