Friends who disappear when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I thought we had this thread already because I remember bitching about this. Oh well.

PB, I think your situation is different if you only get to see each other on the weekends - of course that time is reserved for your lady if it's the only time you have with her. If you saw her every single day or lived with her and didn't want to ever go out on the weekend w/ your boys, that would be another story.

There's a difference between scaling back your "girls nights" and abandoning them completely - or worse, telling your friends you're not "allowed" to go out, even to someplace like Applebee's. No, I don't think you're joking when you say that.

My situation is only different because I don't have a lot of money to spend on gas throughout the week because of the distance, and of course my work schedule. If we lived closer to each other, and it was during the week, I still would prefer to spend my time with her. When I said friends I was referring to fraternity brothers who are single. The friends I hang out with are either in healthy, long term, monogamous relationships or healthy marriages, so when we go out, we do things with other couples. I refuse to be around single jokers who like runnin' the streets late at night, or couples who are in unhealthy relationships/marriages. I don't see anything wrong with wanting be around each other if you enjoy each others company.

I wouldn't have a problem if she wanted to hang out with her friends (like a girls night out), but it would all depend on what she considered "A girls night out". I will not be with a woman who classifies a girls night out, as hangin' at clubs of any kind, or has friends who hang out at joints like these. Period. Or if she was runnin' the streets late at night. There is nothing out late at night but some sorry azz, low down, jellyback, hissing cockroaches. Why would I want to be with someone like that? Also, I want to meet the types of friends she's hanging out with. If they're trifling, then that tells me she is too. Birds of a feather flock together.

I think it's very important to respect each others wishes as well. Repsect to me is someone who shows honor for his/her s/o someone who thinks highly of his/her s/o. Every couple must have respect for one another, meaning they have to show kind consideration for each other.

Lastly, I agree with AKA Monet 110%. In my relationship, friends can do one of two things. They can take a back seat to her or they can kiss my azz.