Friends who disappear when they find a boyfriend/girlfriend

Jimmy Choo · #1 03-07-2008, 08:50 PM

While you do need to dedicate time to your SO and your relationships with your friends need to evolve, they shouldn't dissolve...friends were there before and unless you completely screw them over they will be there after! I'm going thru a situation like this with one of my friends and he has completely turned his back on all his friends. He makes time for no one but her. If he doesn't watch himself he won't have any friends to go back to when this relationship fails (which it will b/c she cheats on him).

Sorry.....started going on a personal rant there.....

PrettyBoy · #2 03-10-2008, 01:13 AM

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(which it will b/c she cheats on him).

Doesn't surprise me.

KonfidentOne · #3 03-10-2008, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Jimmy Choo

While you do need to dedicate time to your SO and your relationships with your friends need to evolve, they shouldn't dissolve...friends were there before and unless you completely screw them over they will be there after! I'm going thru a situation like this with one of my friends and he has completely turned his back on all his friends. He makes time for no one but her. If he doesn't watch himself he won't have any friends to go back to when this relationship fails (which it will b/c she cheats on him).

Sorry.....started going on a personal rant there.....

But in a healthy relationship, isn't your significant other supposed to be your friend too? Your friends are obviously not in a healthy relationship if she's cheating. This may only be my opinion, but I think you need to be able to truly call someone your friend before you try to establish a serious relationship with them. People who are your friends have your best interest at heart, which is something I know that I would want from a person that I'm in a relationship with...

cheerfulgreek · #4 03-11-2008, 02:59 PM

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But in a healthy relationship, isn't your significant other supposed to be your friend too? Your friends are obviously not in a healthy relationship if she's cheating. This may only be my opinion, but I think you need to be able to truly call someone your friend before you try to establish a serious relationship with them. People who are your friends have your best interest at heart, which is something I know that I would want from a person that I'm in a relationship with...

I agree with you.

Jimmy Choo · #5 03-11-2008, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by KonfidentOne

But in a healthy relationship, isn't your significant other supposed to be your friend too? Your friends are obviously not in a healthy relationship if she's cheating. This may only be my opinion, but I think you need to be able to truly call someone your friend before you try to establish a serious relationship with them. People who are your friends have your best interest at heart, which is something I know that I would want from a person that I'm in a relationship with...

You get no arguement from me on the fact that your SO needs to be your friend too. I've been with my SO for 8+ years consider him one of my best friends. However, when we first got together I fell into the trap! The trap of being stuck so far up his ass I forgot what sunlight and fresh air were!! The trap of ignoring my friends and never doing anything without him or even bringing him along!!!

Now I can sit back and realize that was stupid. We fought alot and it's b/c we never spent a minute apart. And that made our relationship highly unhealthy. So now we have our time together and I have my activities that are just for me. I even take a vacation a couple times a year that are seperate just to be able to kick it with the girls.

I guess my rant is that the situation that I spoke of is that my friend is still in that honeymoon stuck-up-the-ass phase. I don't think I'm as bothered by that as the fact that the girl that he has decided to ignore everyone for is a whore. Although I don't know how he could touch her again after know she had been with another guy. But that's what sets me off about the whole thing. It's one thing to be in the lovey-dovey phase but to be in that phase with someone who could give you the clap..... it's just too much for me to understand.

cheerfulgreek · #6 03-12-2008, 02:25 PM

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I guess my rant is that the situation that I spoke of is that my friend is still in that honeymoon stuck-up-the-ass phase.

OH. MY. GAWD! lol lol I'm gonna be laughing at this phrase for a long, long time.

Jimmy Choo · #7 03-12-2008, 09:50 PM

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OH. MY. GAWD! lol lol I'm gonna be laughing at this phrase for a long, long time.

Glad I could oblige!

PrettyBoy · #8 03-12-2008, 11:21 PM

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But in a healthy relationship, isn't your significant other supposed to be your BEST friend? Your friends are obviously not in a healthy relationship if she's cheating. This may only be my opinion, but I think you need to be able to truly call someone your friend before you try to establish a serious relationship with them. People who are your friends have your best interest at heart, which is something I know that I would want from a person that I'm in a relationship with...

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