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Originally Posted by marquise1911
Ummm that's not the definition of remarriage, sounds more like divorce. But yes in order for me to "remarry" I would have had to have a marriage which had previously ended. So your question as to if I had been married was silly...  |
I don't know your situation or for that matter much care. You asked a question then retorted to my opinion. I responded in kind. My "bad", I should have played nicely in the sandbox, stayed quiet and not repond to your utterances.
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Ok. You must be a few steps short of reason to honestly believe that a person through a lack of self love invites pain. I would whole heartedly agree with you if you said they ACCEPT ill treatment because they lack self value. But the fact remains that no matter how much you love yourself, it will not stop your spouse from cheating. No matter how much you love yourself, ith will not stop your mate from diving head first into a bottle of whiskey. Self love is not the issue. What we are dealing with is the fact that the relationship and family structure of our people is on a speed boat to hell and some of us are enjoying the ride. That my friend is the real issue.
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WAIT!!!
ARROGANCE DOES NOT = SELF-LOVE. ARROGANCE, as what you are displaying is thinking you are above God, Himself. That is idol worship. That's false. That is not self-love.
Self-love is about respecting yourself and trusting yourself ENOUGH so that even though you are vunerable to attack, you TRUST that your partner will do right by you... That is ALL YOU HAVE GOT! THAT IS ALL YOU CAN DO!
The other person in your RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU CHOOSE TO PURSUE AND MAINTAIN--because really, you did not HAVE TO ABSOLUTELY MARRY THIS PERSON? NO ONE PUT A GUN TO YOUR HEAD SAYING, "MARRY THIS PERSON, NOW DAMMIT"--she was broken before you met her... And you cannot fix when the other person is not ready, period.
So when someone cheats, when someone drinks: ALL SIGNS are present before you sign ANY paper legalizing the thing.
Your problem was you FAILED to get full disclosure before you sign the life-long mortgage agreement...
Yes, I sure you did EVERYTHING in your power for this woman--I am assuming it was a woman. But this woman, was a pained person before you married her. Now, is it your job to fix it? HAYLE NO! That had nothing to do with your LOVE of HER. What is has to do really, is you CHOSE that foul situation because basically, did you TRUST yourself to ACCEPT the CORRECT AND BEST woman in your life--Hayle, did you TRUST GOD ENOUGH? Did you allow enough SELF-LOVE of yourself based on God, to let Him grant you the right mate? I don't care about your answers to these questions, but are you asking these questions of yourself?
God don't make no mistakes... Which means, this little incursion in your life was a LESSON for you. Did you learn it? I don't need to know THAT answer, but are you asking that question?
Lemme tell you: rather than attacking and insulting my intelligence and experience, you need to re-evaluated yourself a tad bit and realize that all things in life cannot be blamed on the outside. Some things take introspection of one's self.
It sounds like you or your buddies want PowerHouse sistahs, some of us reside on GC, but if you all want better relationships, then improve your Gameplan, advance to the higher Echelons, upgrade to the high stakes tables and Ante up. Because, really, debasing me with your words makes your game sloppy, which has nothing to do with your looks, but more with your intellect, your credit report and psych evaluation...
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