Playas till the day we die...

PrettyBoy · #1 07-10-2007, 02:57 AM

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Originally Posted by marquise1911

No if you read carefully I am not contradicting myself. I simply stated that I was single again, with no aspirations of remarriage. That is the outcome of the last 5yrs of experience. I made the wise decision not to mess up anyone else's life, while working out my issues. I rather pour myself into my family and my education while I work things out. Will I get married again? Who nows. But that is not my focus in life and again not a present aspiration. Yet when I asked brothers to get it together, that is because we honestly need to. All of us have been hurt, but a lot of men use that as an excuse to whore and hurt women. Some men never give anyone the chance to hurt them. Women too have been hurt and because of that they make every man they date a "self fulfilling prophecy". The world is now filled with Bag Ladies and Icebox Men.

My reason for starting this thread was to simply state my observations. I have a chapter of 20 brothers and more friends/associates than I can count. HOW IN DA BLUE HELL CAN I NOT FIND A SINLGE ONE IN A POSITIVE LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP!!!

Something must me wrong.

You and I are on the same page Nupe. The only thing is I've been played hard by women in my past, but I still won't hurt another woman just because I got messed over. At 1st I was done, but now I give relationships a try, but if I feel the woman isn't right, then I just move on, and I don't look back. But I feel you all the way.

OneTimeSBX · #2 07-10-2007, 09:25 AM

i think womens main problem is we LOOK for a man. dont get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with being proactive, but some of us have that "have to be in a relationship" attitude, as if we are less if we dont have a man...we all know who that girlfriend is. the one who is constantly looking before she gets herself straight first.

the best advice i ever got was to stop looking. take time to learn myself. enjoy my youth. practice my faith.

lo and behold, the man in my life moved in across the street from me and we've been together ever since.

PrettyBoy · #3 07-11-2007, 02:48 AM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i think womens main problem is we LOOK for a man. dont get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with being proactive, but some of us have that "have to be in a relationship" attitude, as if we are less if we dont have a man...we all know who that girlfriend is. the one who is constantly looking before she gets herself straight first.

the best advice i ever got was to stop looking. take time to learn myself. enjoy my youth. practice my faith.

lo and behold, the man in my life moved in across the street from me and we've been together ever since.

I agree. Get yourself right 1st but at the same time don't just settle for any joker, it's not worth it. You can be miserable by yourself.

OneTimeSBX · #4 07-11-2007, 05:17 PM

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I agree. Get yourself right 1st but at the same time don't just settle for any joker, it's not worth it. You can be miserable by yourself.

id rather be miserable alone...

ive been alone. its not fun/easy, but i learned so much about myself that it was worth every lonely night. besides, i was 21, 22, who needs a full relationship at that age?

PrettyBoy · #5 07-11-2007, 08:42 PM

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id rather be miserable alone...

ive been alone. its not fun/easy, but i learned so much about myself that it was worth every lonely night. besides, i was 21, 22, who needs a full relationship at that age?

If you like long term relationships, a full relationship is always good, but only if the person you're with is good. You're right, being alone isn't fun, but it's fun if you're with someone who ain't $%^&.

raggann03 · #6 07-11-2007, 09:12 PM

Me and my girlfriends were discussing this topic a few days ago. 1 never married, 1 still a newlywed and myself a product of a failed engagement. The only thing we could come up with is that our current society just does not promote marriage as a viable option for young couples. You see so much propaganda against marriage that most people just feel it's not worth it. It has become more of a legal partnership than a true relationship. Unfortunately I have also been exposed to women being victims of their "social status". Myself and the other single friend are in our early twenties, working on advanced degrees and are in the process of owning property and buisnesses; this alone will cause the average man to feel like he can't bring anything to the table so why try? Men ask me what I'm looking for in a man and I say " to be confident in yourself and comfortable with who you are" Thats all! You'd be surprised and the number of men who decide thats too much!!!

ladygreek · #7 07-13-2007, 02:21 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You're right, being alone isn't fun,

Why? I have much more fun now then I did in a dysfunctional relationship. I am enjoying this period of "aloneness" in my life, because while I might be along I am not lonely.

PrettyBoy · #8 07-14-2007, 06:41 AM

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Why? I have much more fun now then I did in a dysfunctional relationship. I am enjoying this period of "aloneness" in my life, because while I might be along I am not lonely.

I agree. There's nothing worse than having a relationship with an idiot. But I would rather be in a relationship with a great woman than by myself.

marquise1911 · #9 07-10-2007, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You and I are on the same page Nupe. The only thing is I've been played hard by women in my past, but I still won't hurt another woman just because I got messed over. At 1st I was done, but now I give relationships a try, but if I feel the woman isn't right, then I just move on, and I don't look back. But I feel you all the way.

Frat I feel you. I've never been the type to take my pain out on someone else (now the guilty party is open game). I have been given the short end of the stick too many times. I was so done w/ dating/relationships at first also, but then I realized I still want children and stability and those are two things that I probably will only find in marriage. So I have to keep a eye open.

OneTimeSBX · #10 07-10-2007, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by marquise1911

Frat I feel you. I've never been the type to take my pain out on someone else (now the guilty party is open game). I have been given the short end of the stick too many times. I was so done w/ dating/relationships at first also, but then I realized I still want children and stability and those are two things that I probably will only find in marriage. So I have to keep a eye open.

i think the best thing about you is the fact you have kept your options open...a lot of people try marriage, discover the person they are with has done some serious changing, and decided it just wasnt for them 100%. they dont give it a second chance. now, if a person keeps trying ( i have a good friend on wife #4...) and it doesnt work? they are the common factor and need to do some serious soulsearching! the first time you can chalk it up to youth/immaturity/growth, etc.

marquise1911 · #11 07-10-2007, 11:20 AM

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i have a good friend on wife #4...) and it doesnt work?

*Gets on knees and prays in panic*
I never wanna be that man. You know what they say "The common factor of all your failed relationships is you"

OneTimeSBX · #12 07-10-2007, 11:27 AM

lmao, my limit is 2 husbands! and im hoping i only get to #2 after #1 leaves this earth...not that i would have anything to do with that lol!

marquise1911 · #13 07-10-2007, 11:34 AM

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lmao, my limit is 2 husbands! and im hoping i only get to #2 after #1 leaves this earth...not that i would have anything to do with that lol!

Well my limit is 2 obviously, ok 3 if #2 leaves me early. Or I could live a quite life as a widower, receiving sympathy sex and free meals to ease my grief.

OneTimeSBX · #14 07-10-2007, 11:38 AM

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Well my limit is 2 obviously, ok 3 if #2 leaves me early. Or I could live a quite life as a widower, receiving sympathy sex and free meals to ease my grief.

you will eventually get tired of that tuna casserole...

PrettyBoy · #15 07-11-2007, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by marquise1911

Frat I feel you. I've never been the type to take my pain out on someone else (now the guilty party is open game). I have been given the short end of the stick too many times. I was so done w/ dating/relationships at first also, but then I realized I still want children and stability and those are two things that I probably will only find in marriage. So I have to keep a eye open.

Nupe, you'll find a good woman. The funny thing about it, it's always when and where you would least expect to run into her.

Oh yeah, one more thing. Your signature is the bomb, I couldn't have said it better myself.