Negotiation vs. Settling

[Scandia]

Centaur- I have read several of Joshua Harris' books, including "I kissed dating goodbye". Service is NOT a substitute for romance. It is not fair for singles to have to serve while people in relationships are having fun. While I do have a mostly satisfying life being single, let's just say that it involves cultural travel, fun outings with friends, furthering my education, and eccentric hobbies. Certainly not spending all my free time serving others- though I do try to make the world a better place in my own way, and enjoy being a public service children's librarian quite a bit.

Blueangel- no specific person is putting pressure on me, but there is always the societal pressure. And as Centaur said, there is the not so subtle yet very unrealistic expectation that singles should just be content and serve others- which I simply cannot do. In my dating and friendship experience, I have come to realize what is what I want- and how is it similar and/or different than what others want and need. I do work on keeping my life full and interesting.