Superficial Dealbreakers - Page 2

KSig RC · #16 07-31-2008, 01:19 AM

If a woman is a bad kisser, it's a deal-breaker for me. She doesn't have to be amazing or anything, but being actively bad (which is clearly subjective) just mind-bends me and I can't get over it. This has actually come up twice recently with women who were otherwise pretty cool - I just can't get past it. Ladies, keep your f-ing teeth off mine.

There are others, but I'm tilted just talking about this one. I feel like such a dork, but it's not just an isolated thing at this point, it's a borderline pattern.

33girl · #17 07-31-2008, 10:00 AM

-Shaved head (unless you're Taye Diggs or Yul Brynner or a reasonable facsimile)

-Bloatee

-"I don't really have any favorite music, I like everything"

Some of the other things people mentioned (not liking animals, jobless etc) are anything but superficial IMO.

nittanyalum · #18 07-31-2008, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Bloatee

Thanks to urban dictionary, I LOLed. And filed it away in my memory bank, I'm sure I'll find use for it in the future.

AGDee · #19 07-31-2008, 12:36 PM

"I seen" and other grammatical errors make me crazy. I just can't deal with it.

PeppyGPhiB · #20 07-31-2008, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

*people who talk about how "psycho" their exes were.

YES! This is a red flag to me. I have a hard time believing so many women out there are truly "bipolar" or "psycho." Um, maybe she was just tired of the crap you probably gave her?

LPIDelta · #21 07-31-2008, 01:41 PM

I have several posts about this on my blog--but here is my list so far:

Poor grammar in online profiles, and in general
Must know something about my career field
Fake bull testicles hanging from the tow of your truck
Crude bumper stickers (like "Orgasm Donor" and "F**K the Haters" in large size across the back window of your truck)

And I think I may add anyone who wears an Hawiian shirt more than once a year (if you're not from Hawaii)

Fun thread!

33girl · #22 07-31-2008, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by LPIDelta

Fake bull testicles hanging from the tow of your truck

I am inclined to believe this practice is regional (thank you, God).

Our things on trucks seem to be confined to the oh so witty Calvin peeing or Yosemite Sam "back off."

LPIDelta · #23 07-31-2008, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

I am inclined to believe this practice is regional (thank you, God).

Our things on trucks seem to be confined to the oh so witty Calvin peeing or Yosemite Sam "back off."

I am not even sure they are supposed to be bull or human, but it grosses me out. I mean, I don't drive around with fake breasts on my car, you don't need to pretend in an attempt to impress someone.

And I totally second the bad kissing. I am having a rash of that lately, and I can't live with it. I never knew there were so many out there.

violetpretty · #24 07-31-2008, 02:01 PM

*poor table manners
*poor grammar/spelling (when a guy spelled mention as "minchen" it was over)
*music snobs
*receding hairlines/balding
*excessive body hair
*bad teeth (poor hygiene and/or terribly crooked)
*meathead types who are totally tan and stereotypically "hot"
*dressing like a rapper, hillbilly, or some other form of ridiculous
*people with kid(s)
*being a one up-er
*don't like dogs
*insisting on driving with the windows down (sorry, it ruins my hair)
*slutty guys
*rabid fans of sports teams I despise
*super-religious
*ass-kissers (I had a bf in 9th grade who insisted on calling my father "Dr." after he learned he had a Ph.D. even though he never goes by "Dr.")
*can't dance or only knows how to grind
*drummers (maybe not a deal breaker, but I'm going to be wary)

DSTCHAOS · #25 07-31-2008, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

YES! This is a red flag to me. I have a hard time believing so many women out there are truly "bipolar" or "psycho." Um, maybe she was just tired of the crap you probably gave her?

Well, I know that there are a lot of psycho and bipolar men and women out there. LOL.

My issue is that a man who has THAT MANY crazy exes is crazy himself. After awhile, the problem is no longer with other people. The problem is with HIM and why his track record is at it is. Bipolar and psycho people are pretty evenly distributed so why does ONE person attract the psychos? LOL. So that's what I tell men who speak negatively of exes and/or have more than one "crazy" ex. The onus is on him to live a happy, drama-free life.

sjsoffer · #26 07-31-2008, 06:58 PM

I hate when people say they don't like reading, and make it sound like it makes them better than the general population. Hating books isn't something to brag about!

LPIDelta · #27 08-01-2008, 03:14 PM

If you feel it's appropriate to wear devil horns, and its NOT Halloween, that's a deal breaker.

Army Wife'79 · #28 08-01-2008, 04:27 PM

For boy toys: good looks and cool cars (hey, it was the late '60's think GTO's, Chargers, Firebirds and V8 Mustangs, Camaro's etc.)
For long term/marriage/possible father of my children: Over 6' tall and high ACT/SAT scores. After over 10 years of dating, my priorities changed.
Also how they treat waiter/waitress. Some guys treat you like a godess then are rude at the restaurant staff so red flags automatically go up.

SOPi_Jawbreaker · #29 08-02-2008, 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

*people who go out Thursday-Saturday and party all the time
*music snobs (you know, guys who will only listen to artists that no one else has ever heard of and thinks people are lame if they *gasp* like an artist that's played on the radio).
*receding hairlines
*balding

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Bald/going bald
Tatoos
Ear Ring(s)
Spiked haircuts

Quote:

Originally Posted by violetpretty

*music snobs
*receding hairlines/balding
*insisting on driving with the windows down (sorry, it ruins my hair)
*drummers (maybe not a deal breaker, but I'm going to be wary)

These are actually ones that I wouldn't necessarily mind dating. Though that may be because these characteristics (with the exception of the music snobbery and the partying all the time) describe a certain hot drummer I know.

I love musicians. I love tattoos and some piercings. I wouldn't want a guy that goes out and gets shit-faced every single Thur-Sat, but I would be ok with a guy that goes out most weekends to have a couple beers with his guys. I can be a little bit of a music snob myself sometimes, so I wouldn't mind a guy that's a little bit of music snob, but I wouldn't want to date a HUGE music snob.

My dealbreaker list:
not college educated
doesn't have a decent job
doesn't have a car
still lives with his parents
super-religious
zero fashion sense
slovenly dressed
filthy, unkempt apartment
needy or clingy
tries too hard
doesn't like music or has bad taste in music
poor hygiene
bad kisser (luckily I haven't encountered any yet

...**knocks on wood**)
overweight
really dorky (Trekkie, plays Dungeons & Dragons, etc.)
not open to trying new things (like cuisine or traveling or exploring the city)
won't go out to bars or clubs even occasionally
judgmental
rude to waiters/waitresses
doesn't want to meet, get to know, get along with my friends
tries to tell me what to do
dumb as a box of rocks
poor grammar
types like a 13-year old (i jst wan you to noe dat ima alwaiiz b heer fer u i dunno wat id du witout you)
waaaaaay too into his sports team, his car, working out or himself
spends more time getting ready than I do

cheerfulgreek · #30 08-02-2008, 04:16 AM

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Originally Posted by LPIDelta

Crude bumper stickers (like "Orgasm Donor" and "F**K the Haters" in large size across the back window of your truck)

My God, this post made me laugh SO hard. lol