Discouraging Someone From Rushing

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A young woman I know is in a situation and would like some advice ...

Her fiance's brother will graduate high school this year. The young man has been accepted to a number of colleges and is still waiting to hear from some others.

Some the colleges to which he has been accepted have strong Greek communities. He has indicated that that he is most interested in joining a fraternity.

The problem, my friend say, is that her future brother-in-law isn't likely to get a bid from a fraternity, even the lowest ranked organization in the pecking order. I should add that my friend went to university with a strong Greek system, was a member in and officer of a sorority and pretty much dated only fraternity men while in college (her fiance went to a college that didn't have fraternities or sororities).

She says her fiance's brother has an effeminate voice and mannerism, is unathletic to the point of being a total klutz, and is painfully shy. She said he is the type of guy you would fix up your roommate with for the April Fools Day dance. She added that he is very intelligent, hard working and has a dry sense of humor.

She says she knows that there is no way that the young man will get a bid, she said she known too many fraternity members to think otherwise.

Short of playing Henry Higgins to his Eliza Doolittle, she wants to discourage him from rushing and getting hurt. Best case scenario: she hopes that he will attend one of the colleges that do not have a Greek system. Worst case scenario: that the young man is in for a bitter disappointment.

Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanx