Discouraging Someone From Rushing

[33girl]

I was just going to say that this is definitely a penis/not-penis issue. Part of the reason girls go without bids is that by bidding the geeky girl, you might not be able to bid the cool girl. It doesn't work that way w/ fraternities (most of the time).

Plus, this guy has 6 months till college starts. A LOT can happen in 6 months.

and my final comment....all I have to say is....emo boys...if they were going to college back in my day, they would have probably been beaten up on a regular basis. Now they've got girls swooning over them.

[gtdxeric]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I was just going to say that this is definitely a penis/not-penis issue.

I prefer to think of it as a vagina/not-vagina issue.

Anyway, I agree that rushing for guys is generally a less potentially traumatic experience than for girls. Outright rejection is not that common (in my experience), and if it happens, is done on a one-on-one basis, rather than getting rejected by every house at once through an impersonal phone call, as can happen in NPC recruitment. If a guy's not going to fit in at a house, he can generally tell, and if a guy hasn't gotten a bid, there's plenty of opportunity to withdraw from rush, whenever the rushee wants, with whatever reasoning the rushee wants to use. ("Those guys were douchebags, I wouldn't have taken a bid if they'd offered me one.")