Would you date a guy that was not in a fraternity?

[soda]

i don't really think i want to go greek b/c i have a lot friends and really good network and don't feel the need for one. i'm pretty confident that i can get girls w/o joining a frat and i honestly don't think frat guys get more girls than guys who aren't (correct me if im wrong).

unless it's a status thing for a girl like "oh i only date frat guys b/c bla bla" then i think i can get a sorority girl.

so once again my question is...

Would you date a guy who is not in a fraternity?

Would you be more likely to date a guy in a fraternity?


basically at my school ive noticed a lot of girls date outside of the greek life community and the frats are NOT involved so heavily in the activities ya'll are talking about. infact...most of the frats where im going to school don't do much stuff outside of partying and drinking...so i honestly have no clue what "extra" stuff they do.

[KyleMcGuire1983]

After reading this post and the last one you wrote I sincerely hope you don't get bidded to join a fraternity.

To be honest it's pretty obvious you don't yet understand what the system is all about and see this as a potential opportunity to get laid a lot, drunk a lot, and maybe get a cushy job. I've see a thousand guys like you, and as a Vice President I realize that at this point in your life you'd be nothing but trouble and dead weight in the house.

I hope you get a chance to better re-examine your priorities and the greek community. Maybe one day it will be a match for you....just not yet.

[Kevlar281]

Greeks date Greeks predominately because it makes things easier when you have to do something Fraternity/Sorority related. They understand the commitment that being part of a Greek organization entails.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by KyleMcGuire1983

After reading this post and the last one you wrote I sincerely hope you don't get bidded to join a fraternity.

To be honest it's pretty obvious you don't yet understand what the system is all about and see this as a potential opportunity to get laid a lot, drunk a lot, and maybe get a cushy job. I've see a thousand guys like you, and as a Vice President I realize that at this point in your life you'd be nothing but trouble and dead weight in the house.

I hope you get a chance to better re-examine your priorities and the greek community. Maybe one day it will be a match for you....just not yet.

That's a pretty bold statement, unless you know what campus he is on and a lot about the fraternity culture there. Remember, when potential members think stuff like this, it is often true.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by soda

i don't really think i want to go greek b/c i have a lot friends and really good network and don't feel the need for one. i'm pretty confident that i can get girls w/o joining a frat and i honestly don't think frat guys get more girls than guys who aren't (correct me if im wrong).

unless it's a status thing for a girl like "oh i only date frat guys b/c bla bla" then i think i can get a sorority girl.

so once again my question is...

Would you date a guy who is not in a fraternity?

Would you be more likely to date a guy in a fraternity?


hey kyle....ive gotten 2 bids and am 2/2 lol. but i see what your sayin...

It doesn't matter to me. Most of the guys I've dated have been in a fraternity, but it really doesn't matter as long as he's nice to me.

Uhmm, you seem to be really pressed about this whole fraternity/sorority thing. If you don't think you wanna go greek or you think you can get girls without going greek then why do you keep starting threads about the subject anyway?

[KyleMcGuire1983]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

That's a pretty bold statement, unless you know what campus he is on and a lot about the fraternity culture there. Remember, when potential members think stuff like this, it is often true.

There's nothing bold about calling a guy out who seems only interested on using a fraternity to meet his sexual needs.

I'm suprised more people aren't offended by this nonsense

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by KyleMcGuire1983

There's nothing bold about calling a guy out who seems only interested on using a fraternity to meet his sexual needs.

I'm suprised more people aren't offended by this nonsense

Ditto

[REE1993]

I think what also happens is that people are more likely to date within a smaller community (i.e. the Greek system) than outside of it. The same goes for people who are very into their religion, certain hobbies, etc. Familiarity breeds attraction.

I agree with the statement about dating Greeks because they understand the commitment involved. I dated non-greeks and they had no clue what it was all about, and it caused a lot of fight.

Just be yourself and you will find someone who is interested in the same things you are.

[PhenomenalZTA]

When I was still collegiate, I used to think that all I wanted to date were fraternity guys (for reasons mentioned above, the smaller community aspect of greek life, they understand the huge commitment, etc.) but as soon as I became an Alum it all ceased to matter. Then I married a G.D.I. Though my husband doesn't always understand 100% of the time (when alum meetings run late, my obsession with strawberries,) he is still very supportive of my involvement.

[SWTXBelle]

To the first questions(s) - yes, I dated non-Greeks. I dated one who was so impressed by my sorority that he turned around and founded a colony of Sigma Chi - so he became a Greek! My second husband is not a Greek. I dated gentlemen, not Greek letters.

To the unspoken question - do NOT join a fraternity for access to girls. If you can't get them outside of a fraternity, you won't get them in the fraternity. If you cannot commit to the ideals and principles of the fraternity, if you do not want to contribute to building something greater than yourself, if you aren't willing to be a true brother join some other club!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by KyleMcGuire1983

There's nothing bold about calling a guy out who seems only interested on using a fraternity to meet his sexual needs.

I'm suprised more people aren't offended by this nonsense

If the chapters on his campus advertise themselves as being all about girls and drinking, you can't fault him for thinking that a fraternity is all about girls and drinking. Heck, if the chapters on his campus are all about girls and drinking, you can't fault him for rushing to meet girls and drink.

It's great that you hold yourself to higher ideals, but we all know that every organization has a chapters that do not.

[rufio]

yes, once you join you are only allowed to date other greeks. greek life has that much control over your life. i cant eat sleep or get dressed with out the go ahead from my fraternity.

greeks date other greeks bc of their availability and constant exposure to each other. its like you when you see that one girl at work everyday and you start to like each other. except you see that one girl at Greek Life events. but if you're a good person you'll date a person based on their worth and not solely based on whether they're apart of an organization.

you're a dummy

[soda]

I asked the question "Would you date a guy that was not in a fraternity?"

Many of you girls seem pretty nice and not so superficial...and just want to date a guy who respects you etc...which I like.

But many of you said "Well it's easier to date a Greek b/c of the time commitment etc etc"

What time commitment? The fraternities at my school don't do much beyond partying and drinking (3rd biggest party school in the nation). They claim it's oh so easy to get girls but it seems as though they are lying b/c I never see it.

I know the sororities raise money and stuff but the fraternernities raise like 250 bucks if even that...

It seems as if Greek life is more than partying (sometimes 3 times a week at my school) and drinking yet the frats have not told me anything beyond this nor do they do much else...

ive heard Greeks get good grades and do well in school etc... but all the Greeks I've talked to include GPA's of 0.7, 1.7, 1.2, and 2.3.

So...What's up?? Isn't Greek life supposed to be about partying, not remembering the last time you were sober (like 1 guy i talked to), and getting girls (or atleast lying about it).

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

To the unspoken question - do NOT join a fraternity for access to girls. If you can't get them outside of a fraternity, you won't get them in the fraternity.

Well said.

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by soda

So...What's up?? Isn't Greek life supposed to be about partying, not remembering the last time you were sober (like 1 guy i talked to), and getting girls (or atleast lying about it).

Oh. My. God.