First signs of a bad first date

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

*Getting upset if I don't return your calls right away.

Example: if you call me while i'm at work, and I don't return your call until after 5, and the first words out of your mouth are "I called you three hours ago, why didn't you call me back?" (in a serious way and not being funny/sarcastic) there will be no more dates.

This! PLUS, if you call me during work hours at all and we've only been out once, we have a problem. How RUDE. You don't know me well enough to call me during work hours, and then to have the nerve to be upset that I didn't pick up or call right back? I said good day, sir!

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

This! PLUS, if you call me during work hours at all and we've only been out once, we have a problem. How RUDE. You don't know me well enough to call me during work hours....

Goodness, you have a low threshold. That only makes sense if you share your office hours with him on the date (a la Big Red "my office hours are from 8 to 5...") and ask him not to call you during them.

On another note:
Many many moons ago, I hung out with a dude ONE TIME and he began calling me ALL DAY. When I was in the office. When I was out shopping. I'm out to dinner and he's calling me every 5 minutes. It was the craziest thing I'd ever experienced. It pissed me off. And one time I decided to answer and he said "I didn't want nothing...I just have this crazy work schedule and I get bored." Well...ummm...pick up knitting or something. Needless to say, we never talked again.

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Goodness, you have a low threshold. That only makes sense if you share your office hours with him on the date (a la Big Red "my office hours are from 8 to 5...") and ask him not to call you during them.

On another note:
Many many moons ago, I hung out with a dude ONE TIME and he began calling me ALL DAY. When I was in the office. When I was out shopping. I'm out to dinner and he's calling me every 5 minutes. It was the craziest thing I'd ever experienced. It pissed me off. And one time I decided to answer and he said "I didn't want nothing...I just have this crazy work schedule and I get bored." Well...ummm...pick up knitting or something. Needless to say, we never talked again.

LOL! If I love that movie. If the date went well enough that he is able to call me again at some point I would have shared to him what I do and that they were day time hours. And yeah, I have a low threshold. I feel some type of way about calling someone during work hours unless they've asked me to.

Oh, and the dude who called all day would have been blocked (lol wait, they didn't have the cellphone block features that long ago), I can't stand having someone call me that many times a day. It's annoying.

[UofISigKap]

If you find yourself reading an e-mail that says, "I was going to call you, but I didn't think you'd answer," it may have been a bad first date.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by UofISigKap

If you find yourself reading an e-mail that says, "I was going to call you, but I didn't think you'd answer," it may have been a bad first date.

Ouch.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by UofISigKap

If you find yourself reading an e-mail that says, "I was going to call you, but I didn't think you'd answer," it may have been a bad first date.

Wow. Who would write an e-mail like that?

"You won't answer my call, but you will answer my e-mail."

Yikes.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Goodness, you have a low threshold. That only makes sense if you share your office hours with him on the date (a la Big Red "my office hours are from 8 to 5...") and ask him not to call you during them.

On another note:
Many many moons ago, I hung out with a dude ONE TIME and he began calling me ALL DAY. When I was in the office. When I was out shopping. I'm out to dinner and he's calling me every 5 minutes. It was the craziest thing I'd ever experienced. It pissed me off. And one time I decided to answer and he said "I didn't want nothing...I just have this crazy work schedule and I get bored." Well...ummm...pick up knitting or something. Needless to say, we never talked again.

You really need to get out of my head and stop liking my favorite stuff. This is getting scary.

My job is not such that I can just talk during the day. So if you're calling me, it needs to be an emergency. "I just wanted to see what you were up to" isn't an emergency. It also annoys me because the whole "what are you doing?" thing makes ZERO sense. I'm WORKING, duh.

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

You really need to get out of my head and stop liking my favorite stuff. This is getting scary.

My job is not such that I can just talk during the day. So if you're calling me, it needs to be an emergency. "I just wanted to see what you were up to" isn't an emergency. It also annoys me because the whole "what are you doing?" thing makes ZERO sense. I'm WORKING, duh.

YES!!

It's not that I can't necessarily take calls during the day, it's just that I don't want anyone getting comfortable calling me throughout the day while I'm working.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

YES!!

It's not that I can't necessarily take calls during the day, it's just that I don't want anyone getting comfortable calling me throughout the day while I'm working.

As long as you tell him that. Sometimes we assume that these things are common sense and common practice when they aren't.

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

As long as you tell him that. Sometimes we assume that these things are common sense and common practice when they aren't.

True. If for some reason I forgot to tell him, I'd tell him the next time we spoke (assuming he didn't throw a hissy fit because I didn't answer/return his call right away).

[TonyB06]

first date bad signs:

-she's the "hero" of every story she tells.
-excessive tatoos. (ok, any tatoos at all. not a fan.)
-excessive phone calls. Unless it's a family emergency, the world won't stop spinning if you don't answer your phone for two hours.

[Lady Pi]

-Texting, constantly looking at his phone, or having his phone on the table during dinner. I find this very rude even when my friends do it.
-Talking about sex
-Being rude/mean to other people! Or trying to boss service people around like he owns them just because he's a customer.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

-excessive tatoos. (ok, any tatoos at all. not a fan.)
.

I agree....a deal breaker, for me.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

- He shows up in a shirt monogrammed/silkscreened with his company's logo (up here in Microsoft country, you wouldn't believe how many guys I went on dates with showed up with MS shirts. It's just really lazy and shows they don't care much about their appearance...and that they don't apparently ever go anywhere nice that requires a non-logo t/shirt.

OMG YES. No, if we are meeting on the east side of the city and you live on the far west side, and we are meeting right after your work...I don't expect you to go the whole way home and change. I do expect you to think about the fact that you're doing something after work and bring a f'ing non-logo shirt along to change into. I may not want everyone to think that I'm taking a business associate out for a thank you dinner.

Not only that, but (sweeping generalization here) many of the guys who do this are fat and sweaty and they need to change into a fresh shirt before a date anyway, regardless of what's on it.

[agzg]

I would imagine that some of the guys who wear the software company logo shirts are trying to imply that they're wealthy (and work for an uber successful tech company like Microsoft, Google, or Apple). Tech guys love to show that shit off.