Is she pregnant? - Page 6

SydneyK · #1 08-15-2009, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Yes. Now he needs to leave GC out of the equation. He has posted enough about this.

I'll agree that it's time for him to leave GC out of the equation, but not necessarily for the same reason as you. He's going to continue to get "lessons" from people who have no idea what it's like to be in his shoes. He's getting bombarded by negativity at a time in his life when what he needs most is support. He needs to leave the judgmental GC to find people who will understand that he made a mistake, that he's owned that mistake, and is trying to find a way to come to terms with it.

Xanthus, seriously, good luck with everything. Being a parent is a hard and thankless job (well, it's thankless in the beginning anyway), and there will definitely be days that will try your every last nerve. But, it's also a very rewarding job, and one that, even on its worst days, has excellent benefits. I hope you and mom-to-be can, at the very least, work things out so that you're civil with each other. I'm not sure what your next step is regarding a relationship with her, but even if you're not together, you'll need to be able to communicate well and work together for the baby's benefit.

DrPhil · #2 08-15-2009, 01:13 PM

Actually, when I say he should stop posting, it is for two reasons:

1) We didn't need to know in the first place because...we just didn't...and he could've figured this out without GC.

and

2) When you invite people into your life, on the internet and in real life, you are opening yourself up to informed, uninformed, good, and bad responses. There's no screening process. People, particularly strangers and usernames, aren't obligated to be positive and supportive.

PrettyBoy · #3 08-16-2009, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Xanthus

1st off, fuck you troll buster. I'm not a fucking troll. You seem to think anyone with under 100 posts is a troll, when in reality you're the only dipshit on here trolling. I knew what I was getting myself into when I started this thread, but this is serious and I don't need you posting your stupid jokes. No one gives a shit about your stupid troll busting, you fake moderator stupid fuck. stfu or gtfo!

I know a lot of what I said doesn't make any sense, but right now this is all new to me. I know, I fucked up, but I have to put that behind me now, and move on. KSU Violet I already said "I brought this on myself", post your thoughts, but I don't need you to repeat it back to me. Pretty boy, to answer your question, I'm not ready to be a parent, (if you're not already) are you? If you and others were in my shoes, you would have doubts too. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I pretty much know it's my kid, but I also know people who thought the kid was theirs and it wasn't.

Kevin and the rest who have given good advice to me, thanks a lot for your support. I made an appointment with an attorney for Wednesday and I'm getting a physical this Monday. I'll keep you guys posted. Probably via pm because some of you aren't being very helpful at all. Kevin and 33girl thanks again.

I guess this isn't a joke. My bad.

@ the small bolded quote.

@ the big bolded quote, I agree with the first part. You're right, you messed up, but it's a mistake that you still can rebound from. Like you said, now you have to put it behind you, but at the same time be the best father you can be and give this child enough guidance and support to be the best person he/she can be by giving him/her the tools he/she needs to succeed in the world, a strong faith, and a good education.

No, I'm not a father, but I know what commitment and responsibility are. I agree, not everybody is cut out to be a parent, but you knew before you laid down with this woman, that you didn't want to be a father, at least not at this time in your life. Don't compare yourself to me because I wouldn't put myself in your shoes, if I knew that I wasn't able to accept parenting as a lifetime commitment. I wouldn't take a risk by having sex especially with a woman I don't have anything in common with or don't want to be with not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. Based on your post and other posts I've read of yours, it was all about the physical for you, as it is for many, and that's what I think is sad. This is where you and I differ. My advice to you now is to be there for this child, because being there can make all the difference in the world.

Good luck and stop screwing women you don't want to be with, and invest in some condoms.

AKA_Monet · #4 08-24-2009, 02:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Xanthus

I know a lot of what I said doesn't make any sense, but right now this is all new to me. I know, I fucked up, but I have to put that behind me now, and move on. KSU Violet I already said "I brought this on myself", post your thoughts, but I don't need you to repeat it back to me. Pretty boy, to answer your question, I'm not ready to be a parent, (if you're not already) are you? If you and others were in my shoes, you would have doubts too. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I pretty much know it's my kid, but I also know people who thought the kid was theirs and it wasn't.

Kevin and the rest who have given good advice to me, thanks a lot for your support. I made an appointment with an attorney for Wednesday and I'm getting a physical this Monday. I'll keep you guys posted. Probably via pm because some of you aren't being very helpful at all. Kevin and 33girl thanks again.

Sweetheart, all your posts and information can be tracked by IP Address. That means if the woman you impregnated gets a hold of this stuff, she could use it against you. If you don't care about that, then good luck! If you do, well, you can seek supermoderator support and MAYBE it can be archived...

Anyhow, after getting your lawyer, you could consider seeking family counseling as to how to negotiate a parenting relationship--even if your woman does NOT go because you will be dealing with your custody agreement preferably with a social worker. The reason is your child support agreement you pay will be equitable to your child and how you spend your time to see your offspring.

SydneyK · #5 08-17-2009, 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Troll Buster

You're either one of three things.

1. You're either some sick fuck with some deep seeded issues
2. You're someone's sockpuppet and let me add the worst fucking sockpuppet I've ever seen
3. You're an attention whore

Pick one.

Gee, TrollBuster, are you sure you're not talking about yourself there?

Kevin · #6 08-17-2009, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

Gee, TrollBuster, are you sure you're not talking about yourself there?

That's what I was thinking.

Trollbuster is trolling in every sense of the word.

DrPhil · #7 08-15-2009, 01:20 PM

I wish him well, since he already knows he made a mistake.

I also think some of the "positive" responses would be different if he was a woman.

SydneyK · #8 08-15-2009, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Actually, when I say he should stop posting, it is for two reasons:

1) We didn't need to know in the first place because...we just didn't...and he could've figured this out without GC.

and

2) When you invite people into your life, on the internet and in real life, you are opening yourself up to informed, uninformed, good, and bad responses. There's no screening process. People, particularly strangers and usernames, aren't obligated to be positive and supportive.

I wish him well, since he already knows he made a mistake.

I also think some of the "positive" responses would be different if he was a woman.

I agree with all of that. And, to add to your last comment, I think some of the "negative" responses would be different if he were a woman, too.

DrPhil · #9 08-15-2009, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by SydneyK

I think some of the "negative" responses would be different if he were a woman, too.

They would be even more negative.

33girl · #10 08-15-2009, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

They would be even more negative.

Or else they'd be manbashing to the skies. It probably would depend on the poster.

DrPhil · #11 08-15-2009, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Or else they'd be manbashing to the skies.

Oh yeah those sheisty men who sneak their way into women's vaginas.

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Originally Posted by 33girl

It probably would depend on the poster.

oh noooooo!

pshsx1 · #12 08-17-2009, 12:09 AM

I wish you the best, Xanthus.

MidwayManiac · #13 08-22-2009, 12:42 PM

De-lurking to add a couple of comments.

1) To the OP (who say's he's not ready to be a parent): My wife and I wanted to be parents, we planned for it, we were blessed with a beautiful son, and I still didn't feel ready for parenthood! Yet it was the best thing to ever happen to me.

2) A few years ago I was in a situation where a gf and I broke up after an intense relationship and just a few days later she knocked on my door and told me her period was late -- way late. Not what we needed at the time. We both knew that she was very regular. This had the feeling of being very serious. A few days later she told me she had gotten her period. We were young, stupid, foolish, and we had dodged a bullet, because we both knew we had been playing with fire.

She was Catholic, and I am pretty sure that had she been pregnant, she would have had the baby. Whether we would have tried to get back together, I don't know. We never had to face it. What is strange is that sometimes I will see someone about the age that our child would be now and I wonder what the child we never had would have been like.

3) Growing up with parents who were not together, I can say that a very bad thing to do is to use the child as a pawn in a battle between the parents. I hope that the parents in the OP's situation can find it to put their differences aside and agree to be civil with respect to the child in the situation.

Best wishes to the OP and others in similar situations.

ASUADPi · #14 08-22-2009, 08:20 PM

Xanthus- I hope the everything works out for you. Life totally sucks an throws major curveballs at us, but we just have to work through them.

Not that I want to start an "uprising", but seriously why are people being so quick to judge someone who say's "yeah I had sex with a girl that I know well, but we aren't in a relationship together, and we didn't use a condom". Hello shit like that happens every single frickin day. I'm sure half the people on greek chat have had those 'stupid" moments where they didn't have "protected" sex.

Yeah it was stupid. The OP already admitted to that much. But I highly doubt every single person out there who is sexually active can state that they never got caught up in the moment and forgot protection. If so, someone is lying because there wouldn't be so many unplanned pregnancies in the world would there. (See Maury who is constantly have paternity episodes)

KSUViolet06 · #15 08-22-2009, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Not that I want to start an "uprising", but seriously why are people being so quick to judge someone who say's "yeah I had sex with a girl that I know well, but we aren't in a relationship together, and we didn't use a condom".

I'll speak for myself, but I personally don't think I was being judgmental in the least bit.

That really IS how people get AIDS. I don't that that's judgment. I was just stating fact.

I'm one of those people who has a hard time understanding why people continue to put themselves at risk for disease in this day and age (most of us grew up hearing about AIDS and such pretty regularly).

Also: you open yourself up for anything when you post personal info and such on the interwebz. That's life.