Is she pregnant?

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I know a lot of what I said doesn't make any sense, but right now this is all new to me. I know, I fucked up, but I have to put that behind me now, and move on. KSU Violet I already said "I brought this on myself", post your thoughts, but I don't need you to repeat it back to me. Pretty boy, to answer your question, I'm not ready to be a parent, (if you're not already) are you? If you and others were in my shoes, you would have doubts too. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I pretty much know it's my kid, but I also know people who thought the kid was theirs and it wasn't.

Kevin and the rest who have given good advice to me, thanks a lot for your support. I made an appointment with an attorney for Wednesday and I'm getting a physical this Monday. I'll keep you guys posted. Probably via pm because some of you aren't being very helpful at all. Kevin and 33girl thanks again.

Good luck! It sounds like you're on a good path with getting an attorney and a physical.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Good luck! It sounds like you're on a good path with getting an attorney and a physical.

Yes. Now he needs to leave GC out of the equation. He has posted enough about this.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Yes. Now he needs to leave GC out of the equation. He has posted enough about this.

I'll agree that it's time for him to leave GC out of the equation, but not necessarily for the same reason as you. He's going to continue to get "lessons" from people who have no idea what it's like to be in his shoes. He's getting bombarded by negativity at a time in his life when what he needs most is support. He needs to leave the judgmental GC to find people who will understand that he made a mistake, that he's owned that mistake, and is trying to find a way to come to terms with it.

Xanthus, seriously, good luck with everything. Being a parent is a hard and thankless job (well, it's thankless in the beginning anyway), and there will definitely be days that will try your every last nerve. But, it's also a very rewarding job, and one that, even on its worst days, has excellent benefits. I hope you and mom-to-be can, at the very least, work things out so that you're civil with each other. I'm not sure what your next step is regarding a relationship with her, but even if you're not together, you'll need to be able to communicate well and work together for the baby's benefit.

[DrPhil]

Actually, when I say he should stop posting, it is for two reasons:

1) We didn't need to know in the first place because...we just didn't...and he could've figured this out without GC.

and

2) When you invite people into your life, on the internet and in real life, you are opening yourself up to informed, uninformed, good, and bad responses. There's no screening process. People, particularly strangers and usernames, aren't obligated to be positive and supportive.