Is she pregnant?

[court4short]

Xanthus.. good luck. For your sake I hope you have learned. If you are indeed 30 like someone mentioned earlier, I feel a little better about the situation. I thought you were much younger (I don't know why). I also hope that you don't have any STDs.

I'm not going to judge you for your mistake. I can sort of understand. Though I don't think you made a smart choice, I'm not going to criticize you because that's not going to change the fact. This kind of thing happens a lot, and it's unfortunate, but now you've learned something. It's just a shame that it took a pregnancy to prove a point. (Hence, this is what's called an *accident* - no one plans to accidentally get someone pregnant, EVER. But you did, and you have to deal.)

Good luck. Be supportive of whatever SHE wants to do, it's her body. Make sure the kid is yours. If it's not, be outtttttttta there. If it is, be the most supporitve father you can be.

[Dionysus]

Why didn't you two just do anal? 0% chance. The only kids that can come out your ass are Cosby kids.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

Why didn't you two just do anal? 0% chance. The only kids that can come out your ass are Cosby kids.

LOL!

[Troll Buster]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I read the posts and I just want to tell all of you thanks for responding. Before I get started, I just have to tell 33girl that when I pmed you, you probably got about 50 of the same messages from me. Haha sorry about that. I didn't know why it wasn't showing message sent. I realized there's an option for that. I was wondering what the hell happened. Anyway, thanks again for your advice.

I know this is a dumb thread, but here, good advice is given so I posted it. According to the pregnancy test she purchased at the store, she's is indeed pregnant. I found out the next morning after I started this thread, I just didn't post because I was and still am pretty bummed out about it. I didn't bring up the fact that it might or might not be mine. Chicks freak at that shit. I don't know how I can bring it up to her that I want to get a blood test after the kid is born. When she told me, she then asked me what I wanted to do. I told her that it's up to her. She freaked and said she was not getting an abortion if that's what I'm thinking. I didn't tell her, but to be quite honest with you, that's what I thought she was talking about. She was talking about us. I don't want to be with her as far as a relationship goes. Yeah, I know, I should have worn a rain coat, but shit happens in the heat of the moment. I didn't have any condoms where we were, and we both thought the pill would work because it worked before. She's a clean girl so I know she doesn't have any stds. I've known her for a while, we were just friends for the longest time, so it's not like I don't know anything about her. Financially, I'm not worried, because I have a decent job. It's just really fucked up knowing I have to deal with her. Before anyone jumps all over me for this, I've already accepted that I brought it on myself. I guess my biggest concern is finding out if it's mine. Kevin, more likely than not, I'll pm you in the future for other questions I know I'll have in regards to this.

Guys thanks again for responding.

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by court4short

Hence, this is what's called an *accident* - no one plans to accidentally get someone pregnant, EVER. But you did, and you have to deal.

Hate to say it, but this is where you're wrong. His penis didn't accidentally end up inside her. They had sex, if we're getting down to the biology of that, it is about procreation. There is not such thing as an "accidental" pregnancy, I don't care if one is on the pill and using every sort of protection out there.

Xanthus,
Kevin gave you some good advice, especially about being the best father you can be. Regardless of what happens, remember that the child didn't choose to be created, and thus you have to do your best to make it right for him/her.

[court4short]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

Hate to say it, but this is where you're wrong. His penis didn't accidentally end up inside her. They had sex, if we're getting down to the biology of that, it is about procreation. There is not such thing as an "accidental" pregnancy, I don't care if one is on the pill and using every sort of protection out there.

I do agree with you on this, I guess I didn't word it the right way to get across my point. I was more trying to say that you don't always have sex with the intent of getting someone pregnant, and, IMO, if you ARE using the Pill, condoms (unlike the OP), spermicidal lube, etc. all at the same time and you STILL get pregnant - well, then THAT'S an accident because you took every precaution you could. Technically, you could practice abstinence, but let's be realistic - not everyone does. I don't think it's fair to blame someone for a pregnancy if they use every single precaution and still get pregnant.

However, this is irrelevant so let's just leave it. I know you probably disagree with me, but that's fine.

The point is, the OP didn't use a condom. Hopefully he has learned, and others reading this, as well.

[Kevin]

Also, I forgot to mention that some states will require that the father reimburse the mother for expenses related to the pregnancy and birth. This is all stuff you really need to sit down with a lawyer and talk about. You're in all likelihood about to be a party to a paternity case (once the kid is born), but it really helps to know your rights ahead of time, e.g., what happens when you acknowledge paternity, when and whether you can ask for a DNA test, etc.

ETA: And for the ladies who continue to lecture us about condom use.. For the love of Christ, we all know about that. People do make mistakes and they do have to live with the consequences. Glass houses, stones, etc... STFU.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I didn't bring up the fact that it might or might not be mine. I don't know how I can bring it up to her that I want to get a blood test after the kid is born.

She's a clean girl so I know she doesn't have any stds. I've known her for a while, we were just friends for the longest time, so it's not like I don't know anything about her.

I guess my biggest concern is finding out if it's mine.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I think the majority of us are way ahead of you on the "WTF?"

See this post by me, lol (with several other WTF posts to follow):

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...9&postcount=59

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think the majority of us are way ahead of you on the "WTF?"

See this post by me, lol (with several other WTF posts to follow):

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...9&postcount=59

LOL you and I are --->here<---. What has me confused is if he "knows" she's a clean woman, "knows" that she doesn't have any stds, and feels confident enough to have sex with her without a condom, then why is he concerned that he may or may not be the father? The two don't match. Based on his last post, he's saying that he "knows" she hasn't slept with anyone else, but then he's saying she may have since he now wants a blood test.

Xanthus, is this a joke, man?

ETA: Xanthus, I'll ask you. Why do you want to get a blood test if she's so clean and hasn't screwed another dude? I see what you did. You waited until her panties were wrapped around her knee caps, got the nookie, and now that you got the call "I'm pregnant" you don't want to deal with the responsibility. Dude, please.

[Troll Buster]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think the majority of us are way ahead of you on the "WTF?"

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Xanthus, is this a joke, man?

ETA: Xanthus, I'll ask you. Why do you want to get a blood test if she's so clean and hasn't screwed another dude?

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I was going to just make this a post and not a whole thread, but I'm a little worried. I've seen a lot of great responses to a lot of "question threads" so your help would be appreciated. Remember the chick I was talking about a few months ago? The one I really "thought" I liked? Some of you do. Well, she was costing me too much money, so I felt that we were incompatible. She was fine with that, so I hadn't heard from her until Sunday night. She told me she missed her period. At first she thought she could have been late, but now she says she missed it. I don't know how this works, especially when she "supposedly" was on the pill. She told me she's going to buy one of those pregnancy test today, but I don't know how accurate those things are? If she missed her period, does that necessarily mean she's pregnant? She also says I was the only guy she was having sex with. How accurate are those tests? Help me out here, I'm worried shitless.

I'm also removing my letters from my siggy just in case.

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I read the posts and I just want to tell all of you thanks for responding. Before I get started, I just have to tell 33girl that when I pmed you, you probably got about 50 of the same messages from me. Haha sorry about that. I didn't know why it wasn't showing message sent. I realized there's an option for that. I was wondering what the hell happened. Anyway, thanks again for your advice.

I know this is a dumb thread, but here, good advice is given so I posted it. According to the pregnancy test she purchased at the store, she's is indeed pregnant. I found out the next morning after I started this thread, I just didn't post because I was and still am pretty bummed out about it. I didn't bring up the fact that it might or might not be mine. Chicks freak at that shit. I don't know how I can bring it up to her that I want to get a blood test after the kid is born. When she told me, she then asked me what I wanted to do. I told her that it's up to her. She freaked and said she was not getting an abortion if that's what I'm thinking. I didn't tell her, but to be quite honest with you, that's what I thought she was talking about. She was talking about us. I don't want to be with her as far as a relationship goes. Yeah, I know, I should have worn a rain coat, but shit happens in the heat of the moment. I didn't have any condoms where we were, and we both thought the pill would work because it worked before. She's a clean girl so I know she doesn't have any stds. I've known her for a while, we were just friends for the longest time, so it's not like I don't know anything about her. Financially, I'm not worried, because I have a decent job. It's just really fucked up knowing I have to deal with her. Before anyone jumps all over me for this, I've already accepted that I brought it on myself. I guess my biggest concern is finding out if it's mine. Kevin, more likely than not, I'll pm you in the future for other questions I know I'll have in regards to this.

Guys thanks again for responding.

[Troll Buster]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think the majority of us are way ahead of you on the "WTF?"

See this post by me, lol (with several other WTF posts to follow):

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...9&postcount=59

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

LOL you and I are --->here<---. What has me confused is if he "knows" she's a clean woman, "knows" that she doesn't have any stds, and feels confident enough to have sex with her without a condom, then why is he concerned that he may or may not be the father? The two don't match. Based on his last post, he's saying that he "knows" she hasn't slept with anyone else, but then he's saying she may have since he now wants a blood test.

Xanthus, is this a joke, man?

ETA: Xanthus, I'll ask you. Why do you want to get a blood test if she's so clean and hasn't screwed another dude? I see what you did. You waited until her panties were wrapped around her knee caps, got the nookie, and now that you got the call "I'm pregnant" you don't want to deal with the responsibility. Dude, please.

[Xanthus]

1st off, fuck you troll buster. I'm not a fucking troll. You seem to think anyone with under 100 posts is a troll, when in reality you're the only dipshit on here trolling. I knew what I was getting myself into when I started this thread, but this is serious and I don't need you posting your stupid jokes. No one gives a shit about your stupid troll busting, you fake moderator stupid fuck. stfu or gtfo!

I know a lot of what I said doesn't make any sense, but right now this is all new to me. I know, I fucked up, but I have to put that behind me now, and move on. KSU Violet I already said "I brought this on myself", post your thoughts, but I don't need you to repeat it back to me. Pretty boy, to answer your question, I'm not ready to be a parent, (if you're not already) are you? If you and others were in my shoes, you would have doubts too. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I pretty much know it's my kid, but I also know people who thought the kid was theirs and it wasn't.

Kevin and the rest who have given good advice to me, thanks a lot for your support. I made an appointment with an attorney for Wednesday and I'm getting a physical this Monday. I'll keep you guys posted. Probably via pm because some of you aren't being very helpful at all. Kevin and 33girl thanks again.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Xanthus

I know a lot of what I said doesn't make any sense, but right now this is all new to me. I know, I fucked up, but I have to put that behind me now, and move on. KSU Violet I already said "I brought this on myself", post your thoughts, but I don't need you to repeat it back to me. Pretty boy, to answer your question, I'm not ready to be a parent, (if you're not already) are you? If you and others were in my shoes, you would have doubts too. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. I pretty much know it's my kid, but I also know people who thought the kid was theirs and it wasn't.

Kevin and the rest who have given good advice to me, thanks a lot for your support. I made an appointment with an attorney for Wednesday and I'm getting a physical this Monday. I'll keep you guys posted. Probably via pm because some of you aren't being very helpful at all. Kevin and 33girl thanks again.

Good luck! It sounds like you're on a good path with getting an attorney and a physical.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Good luck! It sounds like you're on a good path with getting an attorney and a physical.

Yes. Now he needs to leave GC out of the equation. He has posted enough about this.