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Old 10-22-2009, 06:28 AM
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It sounds like you have some personal issues to deal with before joining any sorority. You have a huge chip on your shoulder and quite frankly an entitlement-queen approach to sorority recruitment. You're using your Aspergers as a crutch.

ETA: Just to clarify, this is directed to bookworm84.

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Old 10-22-2009, 10:59 AM
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It sounds like you have some personal issues to deal with before joining any sorority. You have a huge chip on your shoulder and quite frankly an entitlement-queen approach to sorority recruitment. You're using your Aspergers as a crutch.

ETA: Just to clarify, this is directed to bookworm84.
They are not personal issues that I'm dealing with.I also don't feel any entitlement queen approach and I if I'm using my Asperger's as a "crutch",I'm sorry.I also need to apologize to anyone else on this board if I offended them in any way.What I said was probably mean spirited,rude and completely off base.I was angry about the whole process and saying the system needs to change,I was wrong about that as well.I thought back on what I said and it was angry and mean spirited.It is not my place to judge anyone who is in a sorority and taking out my anger about the whole process is mean,rude,misguided and completely not in my nature to do that.If my parents ever found out that I said those things,they would really chew me out.They both realize that I have been using my Asperger's as a crutch and they both said that needs to change.The whole entitlement queen thing is something that they have addressed to me as a person.They said I need to stop being treated as a "queen" and start taking more responsiblity around the house so I can be more self sufficient.Again,I deeply apologize for the way my posts came across.I completely misjudged a lot of people on here and it came out the wrong way completely.I want to make amends to anyone who I offended by my mean spirited posts.
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Old 10-22-2009, 12:13 PM
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Bookworm84,
I would like to share a little insight as a professional who has had the privilege of diagnosing/treating/working with people with Autism/Aspergers, and with their families (my respects to MysticCat also). Having the benefit of many, many years of training and experience, I'd like to offer the following:
- a hallmark of ASD is difficulty with perspective taking and theory of mind, as well as insight. this may explain or help understand the challenges faced by both people on the spectrum, as well as those who interact with them and do not understand how challenging life is when one does not have those innate social skills. The recruitment process may well have been quite challenging for you (as well as the sororities you visited).
- there are literally thousands of "social skills" - which is why I prefer to address "social thinking", the underlying ability to develop perspective and to interact effectively with non-ASD people. If I had to teach every social skill, I would have clients in therapy for their lifetimes.
- Look Me In The Eye contains a chapter which, IMO, is the best explanation of ASD persons' difficulty understanding verbal and non-verbal language that I've ever read. I did not write this book and have no financial interest in it (I won't benefit if you buy a copy, so I recommend you go to the library and check it out).
- communication is more than 90% non-verbal (I've read that it is actually 96% non-verbal, according to some published reports).

having said all that, the bottom line appears to be that grades were a major stumbling block in your recruitment experience. I know that grades are of the highest importance and that, more than anything else, may be the explanation you're seeking.

No judgment of anyone here, just an honest effort to be supportive and (I hope) somewhat helpful and educational.
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Old 10-22-2009, 12:36 PM
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for their lifetimes.
- Look Me In The Eye contains a chapter which, IMO, is the best explanation of ASD persons' difficulty understanding verbal and non-verbal language that I've ever read. I did not write this book and have no financial interest in it (I won't benefit if you buy a copy, so I recommend you go to the library and check it out).
It's an awesome book. And thanks for your insights!
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