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Originally Posted by sadpnm
Thanks KSUViolet06 and texas*princess.
I know that they had no obligation to invite me back just because they're smaller, but it just hurts that I wanted to be there and wasn't asked back while several girls flat out refused to go to their party tonight.
And dreamseeker, thanks for saying that they would rather close than invite me back. I was invited back to several of the popular chapters that cut a lot of girls, so I guess I must be meeting someone's standards.
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as everyone explained, the problem is not with the chapter, but with the mindset you (plural) as pnms have, that a struggling chapter would take everyone. yes, maybe a chapter would rather close than accept you because you're not right for them, and maybe you wouldn't fit in with them either. you have to stop thinking about it solely in terms of rejection and instead in terms of
mutual selection. it doesn't mean that you suck as an individual, and you're fully aware of this as you have been invited to other houses. i wish u all the best through the rest of recruitment.
hope this made sense, late nite phone convos are really distracting lol
i'm not even NPC anyway so i'll swerve back into my lane of lurking.