Yet another recruitment disappointment...

[AOII Angel]

They may not have felt they were good enough for you either. Sometimes a struggling chapter will cut women who they think will cut them so they can say that they cut them first. It's a defense mechanism. I wouldn't bother worrying about it. Just remember that you had a nice time with them. They may have done you a favor. You may not have fit in with them as well as you may have thought you would have. Good luck finding a match with another group on campus.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

They may not have felt they were good enough for you either. Sometimes a struggling chapter will cut women who they think will cut them so they can say that they cut them first.

I have to disagree with this.

I hardly think a chapter would *really* say "we're going to cut her so that we can say we cut her and not the other way around!!"

I think it's more how someone else explained it: They might have thought she would have chosen to go somewhere else, so they released her and invited back people they thought they would have a better chance of bidding if they really thought she was a top candidate and they didn't have a chance with her.

I guess it's all in semantics-- but I find that concept similar to a situation where, say, a legacy sister who is going through recruitment and her older blood sister is the President of sorority ABC.

She might be a very desirable candidate for membership that a lot of the houses want, but many of the houses release her - not because they don't think she'll be a good fit, or because she doesn't have the grades, or whatever, but because they figure she will probably pledge ABC since her older sister is there. The don't really release her to say "we released her and she didn't release US!" they just want to free up that space for someone they think will likely choose them too.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I have to disagree with this.

I hardly think a chapter would *really* say "we're going to cut her so that we can say we cut her and not the other way around!!"

I know for a fact that my chapter cut people that we knew would cut us before they could do it. Of course, on my campus, we knew a lot of the people going through recruitment beforehand...and these weren't just other chapter's legacies. Hell, we fought to get those!