Rush - What to NOT do or say

[SigKapSweetie]

If it makes you uncomfortable or you will worry that you were dropped from certain chapters because of it, don't wear it.

[barefootbeauty]

Thanks! I have some time before recruitment, but I am trying to make sure I am ready for Fall. Im always the one to be prepared and have my facts in line while others are still scrambling to get their act together.

Thanks again and Go UCF Knights!

[freshie4]

hey! so im going through recruitment process now, and its philantrophy night, what can i expect tonight? I'm guessing that each sorority will let us know more about what their philantrophy is. i'm just so anxious! and excited, and was wondering what some good ice breakers would be when I meet these ladies again!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by freshie4

hey! so im going through recruitment process now, and its philantrophy night, what can i expect tonight? I'm guessing that each sorority will let us know more about what their philantrophy is. i'm just so anxious! and excited, and was wondering what some good ice breakers would be when I meet these ladies again!

\Some philanthropy nights include a presentation or video about the philanthropy, as well as doing a craft related to it.

In terms of icebreakers, I wouldn't worry about this. Just let the conversation flow naturally.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

If you're going to wear something with a high neck, wearing the lavalier might be a good idea. If the subject comes up, you can show it. Chances are, with deferred recruitment, many of the women may already know.

[cali_gossip]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Did she get a bid?

She actually did. Aside from being a little too eager, she was really sweet, the actives liked her and she seemed like she could be an asset to the house.

Originally Posted by ZTA72

Doesn't sound like it, does it? But maybe she did, and we'll find out the name of the turtle.

Trust me you guys will be among the first to know

[barbino]

Originally Posted by cali_gossip

She actually did. Aside from being a little too eager, she was really sweet, the actives liked her and she seemed like she could be an asset to the house.




Trust me you guys will be among the first to know

Okay, this was pretty hilarious. But at least there was a positive outcome; good luck on your new pledge. It's nice to see someone get a bid who was that excited to be in your house!

[BaltoAlphaPsi]

Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

UNTIL I was lavaliered by my boyfriend. We have been dating for three and a half years, and I cannot say I am not happy.

However, I am nervous that it might hurt my chances because I am afraid girls will think I think I'm a shoo-in because of my connection with this fraternity (which, I might add, is one of three left with a house on our campus).

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

Personally, i'd whare it if you're proud of it, but don't be the one that brings it up in conversation. if someone mentions it, be humble, and not TOO proud. Something like... how you're happy to be in a stable relationship, because stability means something to you. but don't linger on the topic.

Stable girls are more likely to get a bid then the girl that's all over the place and prolly filled with drama.

Also, girls don't necessarily want someone who's joined to the hip with their boyfriend, we're glad you're happy and in a healthy relationship, but can you handle being away for him for a weekend at retreat? or will you be constantly texting him?? We like independent girls!

[tina93]

The reason why I didnt let the friend know is because I have another friend at a different historically black college and she is President of her chapter. She was the one who informed me that I should keep my interest confidential and for my not to approach members that I am friends with because she said it is looked down apon. As for me not having my paper work together, the chapter at my school did not follow protocal for posting the rush dates early. They posted it on a Tuesday and Rush was four days later on that Friday so that is why I was confused about the paper work and process.This forum is supposed to be helpful but I HAVE FOUND THAT it disccourages instead of informing.....thanks for nothing. I gues I dont want to join if your own greek people cant even follow their RUles that are posted on the organizations web site.

Originally Posted by tina93

The reason why I didnt let the friend know is because I have another friend at a different historically black college and she is President of her chapter. She was the one who informed me that I should keep my interest confidential and for my not to approach members that I am friends with because she said it is looked down apon. As for me not having my paper work together, the chapter at my school did not follow protocal for posting the rush dates early. They posted it on a Tuesday and Rush was four days later on that Friday so that is why I was confused about the paper work and process.This forum is supposed to be helpful but I HAVE FOUND THAT it disccourages instead of informing.....thanks for nothing. I gues I dont want to join if your own greek people cant even follow their RUles that are posted on the organizations web site.

1. So why are you making your interest public on a message board?

2. Waaaaah.

3. What organizations' website? Cite your source, please.

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

We DO discourage the weirdos.

[IlovemyAKA]

Originally Posted by OTW

1. So why are you making your interest public on a message board?

2. Waaaaah.

3. What organizations' website? Cite your source, please.

She's speaking on NPHC. Personally, I didn't wait for a poster to tell me to be prepared. I had already researched eligibilty requirements on the sorority's national site, and knew what I would need prior to the poster's announcement. If she wants to babied and spoon-fed, she's in the wrong place. Members of GC are not at fault because she did not prepare herself.

ETA: I just went back and saw her 1st post. If she knew 2 weeks ahead of time, why was she not prepared? She says that she went to the site, and saw what she needed. Why not begin preparing those documents instead of waiting for someone to tell you when to do it?

I'm with OTW: Waaaaah

Originally Posted by IlovemyAKA

She's speaking on NPHC. Personally, I didn't wait for a poster to tell me to be prepared. I had already researched eligibilty requirements on the sorority's national site, and knew what I would need prior to the poster's announcement. If she wants to babied and spoon-fed, she's in the wrong place. Members of GC are not at fault because she did not prepare herself.

ETA: I just went back and saw her 1st post. If she knew 2 weeks ahead of time, why was she not prepared? She says that she went to the site, and saw what she needed. Why not begin preparing those documents instead of waiting for someone to tell you when to do it?

I'm with OTW: Waaaaah

LOL, I was aware of her NPHC interest.

You know, sometimes I wish NPC recruitment could be a little more like NPHC membership intake.

[IlovemyAKA]

Originally Posted by OTW

LOL, I was aware of her NPHC interest.

You know, sometimes I wish NPC recruitment could be a little more like NPHC membership intake.

Lol--are you sure because then you could draw even more crazies like this one.

Insert more "why don't you just tell me exactly what to do, or better yet, can you do it for me?" lines here.

Although I must admit that based on the weird rush stories thread, you guys get your share of crazies.

[als463]

Originally Posted by tina93

The reason why I didnt let the friend know is because I have another friend at a different historically black college and she is President of her chapter. She was the one who informed me that I should keep my interest confidential and for my not to approach members that I am friends with because she said it is looked down apon. As for me not having my paper work together, the chapter at my school did not follow protocal for posting the rush dates early. They posted it on a Tuesday and Rush was four days later on that Friday so that is why I was confused about the paper work and process.This forum is supposed to be helpful but I HAVE FOUND THAT it disccourages instead of informing.....thanks for nothing. I gues I dont want to join if your own greek people cant even follow their RUles that are posted on the organizations web site.

Maybe you should worry about SCHOOL before anything else. When your grammar is this atrocious, sorority membership should be the least of your worries. If your writing is any indication of your academic achievement-chances are that most organizations would be better off not allowing you to pledge.