Rush - What to NOT do or say

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

If you're going to wear something with a high neck, wearing the lavalier might be a good idea. If the subject comes up, you can show it. Chances are, with deferred recruitment, many of the women may already know.