Rush - What to NOT do or say

[barefootbeauty]

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

UNTIL I was lavaliered by my boyfriend. We have been dating for three and a half years, and I cannot say I am not happy.

However, I am nervous that it might hurt my chances because I am afraid girls will think I think I'm a shoo-in because of my connection with this fraternity (which, I might add, is one of three left with a house on our campus).

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

At my particular school, we had girls rush who were lavaliered to fraternity boys. They wore their lavalieres. It didn't matter a whole lot, because most of us didn't notice them (just b/c they were careful not to talk about their bfs or fraternities during recruitment).

However, I understand that there ARE schools at which a chapter WILL cut a PNM thinking "Oh she is lavaliered to a ___ so she probably only wants to be a ____."

If you are afraid that that will happen, I'd suggest NOT wearing it.


Better safe than sorry, and I'm sure the bf will understand if you explain.

If you're going to wear something with a high neck, wearing the lavalier might be a good idea. If the subject comes up, you can show it. Chances are, with deferred recruitment, many of the women may already know.

[BaltoAlphaPsi]

Originally Posted by barefootbeauty

Ok, I have been reading these posts for months and felt I was quite confortable with being ready for rush.

UNTIL I was lavaliered by my boyfriend. We have been dating for three and a half years, and I cannot say I am not happy.

However, I am nervous that it might hurt my chances because I am afraid girls will think I think I'm a shoo-in because of my connection with this fraternity (which, I might add, is one of three left with a house on our campus).

As a PNM, should I wear my lavalier during rush? It is small and simple, with no diamonds or pearls or anything.

Any insight would be very helpful.

Personally, i'd whare it if you're proud of it, but don't be the one that brings it up in conversation. if someone mentions it, be humble, and not TOO proud. Something like... how you're happy to be in a stable relationship, because stability means something to you. but don't linger on the topic.

Stable girls are more likely to get a bid then the girl that's all over the place and prolly filled with drama.

Also, girls don't necessarily want someone who's joined to the hip with their boyfriend, we're glad you're happy and in a healthy relationship, but can you handle being away for him for a weekend at retreat? or will you be constantly texting him?? We like independent girls!