Daughter Rushing at Mizzou...

[KSUViolet06]

The "where to go to get recs" hierarchy goes like this:

1. Personal connections (friends, family, teachers, people you know in real life.)

2. Alumnae Panhellenic (not as personal, but will get you what you need.)

3. Individual sorority alumnae chapters (they don't exist for rec purposes, so they're kind of a last resort.)

[ChioLu]

You & your daughter have probably already tried this, but contact her high school teachers to see if they were in a sorority in college, or if they know any Greek alumnae. It may be Six Degrees of Separation.

[sdtennisgal]

I wish I had jumped in on this earlier. I concur that the Sacramento area group is probably the closest to the Sierra foothills, but Reno is not TOO far either. Looking at the recs you are still trying to get, I am SURE there are a ton of Gamma Phi/A Phi/Kappa/Chi O alumnae in the Sac area (given the close-by chapters at UC Davis, Sac State, and the Bay Area schools). Given the number of folks I have know who have parents who have retired to the Sierra foothills (beautiful area, BTW), you probably have some rec sources close by.

[Sciencewoman]

There are regional differences. I have gotten rec requests as president of our local alumnae chapter, and I am not at all offended by this. I've even gotten a referral for a PNM who called our IH in desperation. I have no issue with helping these women, because our local Panhellenic Alumnae Chapter has no interest, none, nada, zip, in being involved in rec writing. We've discussed it...no interest. Sometimes alumnae make a FB post on the APH page about trying to help a PNM find someone to write a rec for a missing group...no response. All the recs I've written have been for women attending school in a southern state.

Recs just aren't big around here, and there is little acknowledgement of the worth of a rec written by someone who doesn't personally know the PNM. The chapter I advise gets less than a handful each year.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

There are regional differences. I have gotten rec requests as president of our local alumnae chapter, and I am not at all offended by this.

Yep. Around here, even with a very helpful Alumnae Panhellenic, people know how important recs are in this part of the country and understand why PNMs reach out wherever they can. Our Alumnae chapter gets requests every year. They just forward them to our local rec chair (who is me).

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

There are regional differences. I have gotten rec requests as president of our local alumnae chapter, and I am not at all offended by this.

Our Chicago-area chapters get this a ton, too, because 1) the Chicago AP has been defunct for a few years (and just got rebirthed this weekend?), and 2) Phi Mu is hard to find up here.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

There are regional differences. I have gotten rec requests as president of our local alumnae chapter, and I am not at all offended by this. I've even gotten a referral for a PNM who called our IH in desperation. I have no issue with helping these women, because our local Panhellenic Alumnae Chapter has no interest, none, nada, zip, in being involved in rec writing. We've discussed it...no interest. Sometimes alumnae make a FB post on the APH page about trying to help a PNM find someone to write a rec for a missing group...no response. All the recs I've written have been for women attending school in a southern state.

Recs just aren't big around here, and there is little acknowledgement of the worth of a rec written by someone who doesn't personally know the PNM. The chapter I advise gets less than a handful each year.

Sadly, the Alumnae Panhellenic here in Naples has a similar attitude. I have even called members up on behalf of PNMs I personally know, and the answer is still "No." A ZTA sister and I have offered to organize a spring information session for area senior girls on behalf of the Alumnae panhellenic and the answer is "No". They have done the same thing for as long as the group has been organized, and until they all die off-and for most of the members, it might not be that long a wait- things ain't gonna change.

So when I know a great girl who needs recs., I network among my friends who are members of other sororities and we usually can cover all the recs. a girl needs. I have even helped PNMs going to colleges where there is not a ZTA chapter. As we often say, if you can find one sorority woman, she may know others. It is all about networking.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

Recs just aren't big around here, and there is little acknowledgement of the worth of a rec written by someone who doesn't personally know the PNM. The chapter I advise gets less than a handful each year.

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Sadly, the Alumnae Panhellenic here in Naples has a similar attitude. I have even called members up on behalf of PNMs I personally know, and the answer is still "No." A ZTA sister and I have offered to organize a spring information session for area senior girls on behalf of the Alumnae panhellenic and the answer is "No". They have done the same thing for as long as the group has been organized, and until they all die off-and for most of the members, it might not be that long a wait- things ain't gonna change.

So when I know a great girl who needs recs., I network among my friends who are members of other sororities and we usually can cover all the recs. a girl needs. I have even helped PNMs going to colleges where there is not a ZTA chapter. As we often say, if you can find one sorority woman, she may know others. It is all about networking.

This is how the Alumnae Panhellenic is here. When people find out that I'm writing recs the first question is if I know all the PNMs. Most are borderline offended when I say that I don't know them, but that someone I know sent them to me. There is a way to say that it is information only. I'm hoping to turn the AP around if nothing else.

[DaffyKD]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

There are regional differences. I have gotten rec requests as president of our local alumnae chapter, and I am not at all offended by this. I've even gotten a referral for a PNM who called our IH in desperation. I have no issue with helping these women, because our local Panhellenic Alumnae Chapter has no interest, none, nada, zip, in being involved in rec writing. We've discussed it...no interest. Sometimes alumnae make a FB post on the APH page about trying to help a PNM find someone to write a rec for a missing group...no response. All the recs I've written have been for women attending school in a southern state.

Recs just aren't big around here, and there is little acknowledgement of the worth of a rec written by someone who doesn't personally know the PNM. The chapter I advise gets less than a handful each year.

Had to look at the name of the poster twice since I could have written this. For the last several years local young ladies have contacted out National Headquarters in desperation to find a recommendation. The message gets forwarded to our Alumnae Chapter President/Co-Presidents who in turn contact members who live near the PNM. I have written several recommendations for young women who have been in contact with me this way. All of them were attending southern schools. We have an active Alumnae Panhellenic Association but they do not seem to actively write recommendations as they do not have members from all 26 groups and here in So CA recommendations are not as big a deal as they are in the south.

DaffyKD

[navane]

Bummer! I was in Sacramento for three weeks during the month of July. I probably could have helped the OP with Gamma Phi Beta. Ah well...I hope her daughter is having a good time right now!

[ChioLu]

Mizzou recruitment starts MONDAY! (Move In Day is today)

AZDBeachgirl -- keep us updated and let us know where your daughter finds a home.

[IrishLake]

I hope she got her last few recs!

[envytheivy1872]

Over 1700 girls this year, so excited! MIZ-AOE <3

[pearlalum]

Good luck to all of the Mizzou PNMs! My son is a Delt at Mizzou; and I can tell you that Greek Life there seems to be quite wonderful. Hope everyone has a good experience!

[pearlalum]

Any updates from Mizzou??