Rare fraternity live recruitment

[Woof]

On an aside,
how does Bid Day work in most SEC schools?
Are you given the bid by the fraternity in person?
Are you mailed your bids?
Do you get put in a room with yoru bids presented to you and you have to choose one?

I'm very curious about this.

[deepsouth]

Most SEC schools do rush during the spring of your senior year and then the proceeding summer. You can be given a bid anytime during that process. Most schools also require a formal rush sometime in late August during which a handful of guys will be given bids. Formal rush is really for guys who are out of town or working all summer and cannot attend rush events, or guys who know don't know enough about the system to know to go in the summer.

As far as the actual bids being given out: After a rushee has met enough guys and everyone has an impression of him, a vote will take place. If he passes, he will likely be invited to a party and at some point will be secluded from the party and extended a bid. This actual process varies from fraternity to fraternity and school to school. If the bid is accepted it usually results in a beer shower.

Also, it's a sad but true fact that most large southern fraternities are unlikely to give a bid to a foreigner or minority. It has been done, but it's rare. Don't hate the players, hate the game.

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by deepsouth

Don't hate the players, hate the game.

maybe im misunderstanding, but to me that quote is used when something is just a by product or passively happens as a result. what im saying is that the members of the org are the ones that actively choose not to recruit a minority, so i just don't think this quote fits here.

[Woof]

So Rush starts the spring of your last high school year?
That's intense.

Here, where Greek Life is maybe 1% of the population, granted it is a large school, sometimes rush don't even realize they are being rushed until we invite them to something smaller like a social or something.

[greek22]

So I don't know if this is common at other universities but at mine sororities can get a guy cut from a certain fraternity. If they fill he's creepy or doesn't fit the profile of a certain fraternity they tell them. So during the parties you have to be careful, have fun, flirt a little, while not overstepping your boundaries. Anyway Wednesday during the day, I get a text from call from red, orange, pink, blue and black all inviting me back that night. During lunch though i talked to a couple of my sorority friends and told them i was considering pink. Every last one of them said they couldn't see me in this fraternity. That I didn't look or talk like them. Also they said they never partied with them nor had any events with them. So I don't really think it was due to peer pressure, maybe more realizing what they were talking about I decided to cut pink. So that night i changed up the order a little bit.
Orange- I had a great time here once again. Got to know alot of more people due to their being less rushees. I loved being here and got invited to their party that night.
Black-Again the funniest guys I've ever met. Plus all the girls at their event said they loved hanging out with these guys and they were all cool. First time I asked around i got no negative opinions about a certain fraternity. Got invited to their party
Blue-I was having a great time here, until one guy invited to his room to drink a little bit. I don't know it rubbed me the wrong way. I guess i was trying to keep an open mind and not believe their reputation as a party all the time fraternity, but they continued to validate this stereotype. Got invited to their party
Red-Went here last because this was their alumni night, so of course dad was there. Surprisingly though had a really really good time. Heard some stories about my dad that I never knew and just had a good time. They didn't have a party that night. But had an after meet and greet with the alumni.

So i went to red first, had a good time. I knew alot of alumni so i didnt stay that long. I went to Black after and had a blast. It seems like everyone was having fun and it was hard to see who was a rushee and who was a brother because they just seemed to accept everybody. Blue, stopped by didnt stay long it was kind of late, but the sorority they were with that night. Every girl in there was beautiful, so I was rather impressed by that. Didnt get to make it to Orange stayed at Black alot that night, but I sent them a text still showing my interest.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by greek22

So there's a little back story to my recruitment. I go to a sec school and personally I was not interested in greek life at the beginning of the semester. However my father is really big on it. President of alumni in the area, goes to events and retreats etc. Plus I'm from Jackson ms, so going greek is a must if you're from there. At the beginning of fall semester I pretty much already knew which fraternity i was going to be in. Talked to them all summer, went ot a couple of their parties they already felt like brothers before school started. So i go through recruitment, I go to this house exclusively, i also bring my best friend who wasn't big on greek life but came out anyway. So to make a long story short bid day came around. I of course recieve a bid but my best friend doesn't. Literally right before i sign my bid, i casusally ask them why my friend didnt recieve one. One of the guys simply told me because he's arab and some of the alumni wouldn't like it, but he was a pretty cool guy. I was beyond furious. I end up getting into a big arguement with some of the brothers for this blatent racism. I call my dad, he and some other inluential alumini come to the house to discuss the matters. After about an hour and a half of talking to me they still won't change their minds because "thats just how things are, around here". My own father agreed with them. So i didn't sign my bid and was simply disgusted by the thought of greek life.... But throughout the semester I was actively recruited by 3 to 4 fraternities who all seem pretty cool. So i decided to give it one more shot. Also my dad offered to buy me a new car, if i gave his another chance, so of course i can't pass that up.... Side note after reading stories on here in my opinion fraternity recruitment is harder because your arent shuffled around to every house, you actually have to go out of your way and meet the guys. Anyway wish me luck here are my top 5 so far without going through recruitment, maybe more will be adeded later we will see.

Red (Dad's fraternity)
Blue (Uncles's fraternity)
Green
Orange (My favorite so far, actively recruited me)
Black

Originally Posted by greek22

Sorry I don't mean to get offensive but please don't make comments about my father. He grew up in a different time and this is a "traditionally southern fraternity". With regards to my value system, the only reason I am considering them again is because of the expectation my dad has. I owe it to him atleast to reconsider them. This fraternity is a big part of his life.

Originally Posted by greek22

I think I'll heed some advice on here and wait until after bid day to write about what happens. You're right I've divulged too much information

Originally Posted by greek22

So the first day of recruitment was on Monday. You go to a meeting and then meet all the fraternities at once in a room. I was advised by numerous fraternities not to show up because it was kind of lame. I showed up anyway and introduced myself to all five fraternities i was interested in. I also met a really cool guy and he introduced me to a newer fraternity and all the guys there were pretty cool and chill too. So add pink to the list. So a small overview
Red (Dad's fraternity)
Blue (Uncles's fraternity)
Green
Orange (My favorite so far, actively recruited me)
Black
Pink

Originally Posted by greek22

Tuesday i set out trying to narrow it down to four fraternities. The one thing people advise you is to go out to alot of fraternities, but spend the most time with your favorites after a while.
Blue-First fraternity I went to because they were the closest. I had a good time here. But, I felt like they were trying to impress me by talking about their parties and crazy times they had. I wanted to hear about their brotherhood and philanthropy and i think they may of talked about those two things a total of ten seconds. I got invited to their party that night though.
Green- A solid fraternity from what I heard from some of my friends. I don't really know what happened. I kind of just walked in, then walked out without talking to anybody. They didnt look horrible or anything, I just felt i was missing something as I walked in. I dont know what, it just didnt feel right.
Black-I met some of the funniest guys in this one. They were all hilarious and I had a great time. The only thing was they seemed like they didn't have as many brothers around like the others did. I got invited to their party that night too.
Pink-The newest fraternity around but they all seemed really cool. They talked about brotherhood and intramurals, which I was very interested in. The only problem here was that they got no sorority to be with that night. I asked them about it and they said their social chair waited too long or something, but I kind of got a feeling they weren't that popular with sororities. No party that night.
Red-When I walked in I was a little bit scared it may be a little awkward. But, I had a good time, the guys were all cool. I also noticed they were very nice to the sorority girls the whole night, and i was impressed by that. I got invited to their party that night.
Orange-I was met down the street by a brother and was walked to the house. This was probably the only time the whole night I had a one on one time with a brother. Anyways after a five minute talk, by the time we got to the house the guy was on the verge of tears, expressing his love for his fraternity. I guess its just me but i personally loved this. I felt like it was something they were proud of. I got invited to their party that night too.

I went to Orange, Red and Blue's parties. Blue was definitely the best, but overall i had a great time at all of them. The next day i just decided to cut Green

Originally Posted by greek22

I couldn't go to all the parties and theirs was the farthest away

Originally Posted by greek22

So I don't know if this is common at other universities but at mine sororities can get a guy cut from a certain fraternity. If they fill he's creepy or doesn't fit the profile of a certain fraternity they tell them. So during the parties you have to be careful, have fun, flirt a little, while not overstepping your boundaries. Anyway Wednesday during the day, I get a text from call from red, orange, pink, blue and black all inviting me back that night. During lunch though i talked to a couple of my sorority friends and told them i was considering pink. Every last one of them said they couldn't see me in this fraternity. That I didn't look or talk like them. Also they said they never partied with them nor had any events with them. So I don't really think it was due to peer pressure, maybe more realizing what they were talking about I decided to cut pink. So that night i changed up the order a little bit.
Orange- I had a great time here once again. Got to know alot of more people due to their being less rushees. I loved being here and got invited to their party that night.
Black-Again the funniest guys I've ever met. Plus all the girls at their event said they loved hanging out with these guys and they were all cool. First time I asked around i got no negative opinions about a certain fraternity. Got invited to their party
Blue-I was having a great time here, until one guy invited to his room to drink a little bit. I don't know it rubbed me the wrong way. I guess i was trying to keep an open mind and not believe their reputation as a party all the time fraternity, but they continued to validate this stereotype. Got invited to their party
Red-Went here last because this was their alumni night, so of course dad was there. Surprisingly though had a really really good time. Heard some stories about my dad that I never knew and just had a good time. They didn't have a party that night. But had an after meet and greet with the alumni.

So i went to red first, had a good time. I knew alot of alumni so i didnt stay that long. I went to Black after and had a blast. It seems like everyone was having fun and it was hard to see who was a rushee and who was a brother because they just seemed to accept everybody. Blue, stopped by didnt stay long it was kind of late, but the sorority they were with that night. Every girl in there was beautiful, so I was rather impressed by that. Didnt get to make it to Orange stayed at Black alot that night, but I sent them a text still showing my interest.

Easier for me to read this way

[DrPhil]

I agree.

[Psi U MC Vito]

I'm just wow at this. You complained one fraternity turned you off because they didn't talk about anything but partying. Yet you dropped a fraternity you got along with because they didn't do events with the sororities. I'm sorry dude, but it sounds like you are interested in going Greek for all the wrong reasons .

[greek22]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

I'm just wow at this. You complained one fraternity turned you off because they didn't talk about anything but partying. Yet you dropped a fraternity you got along with because they didn't do events with the sororities. I'm sorry dude, but it sounds like you are interested in going Greek for all the wrong reasons .

I didn't want to join a fraternity, in where they're not close they just get together and party 24/7. But then again if I do party I am a guy and a would like for their to be girls there. Sorry most guys like having girls at parties.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by greek22

I didn't want to join a fraternity, in where they're not close they just get together and party 24/7. But then again if I do party I am a heterosexual guy and a would like for there to be girls there. Sorry heterosexual guys like having girls at parties.

fixed that for you

I like reading a rare fraternity live recruitment. The OP is just too detailed and has typed a couple of things that should've been unsaid.

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by greek22

I didn't want to join a fraternity, in where they're not close they just get together and party 24/7. But then again if I do party I am a guy and a would like for their to be girls there. Sorry most guys like having girls at parties.

Hmm, not quite sure how to take this.

Let me try to explain it to you this way. You are a Brother from the day you are initiated to the day you die. I know brothers who have been best friends with each other for over 50 years, yet wouldn't have even met if not for the fraternity. That is what being in a fraternity should be about, the unending bonds. Look, as you get older you are going to get to a point where you are no longer interested in partying. You will also if you are fortunate find a woman you will marry and spend the rest of your life with. Partying and girls might be important now, but not for the rest of your life. Your Brothers on the other hand will. It should be all about the connections you feel, not who has the best parties or hangs out with the prettiest girls.

[greek22]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Hmm, not quite sure how to take this.

Let me try to explain it to you this way. You are a Brother from the day you are initiated to the day you die. I know brothers who have been best friends with each other for over 50 years, yet wouldn't have even met if not for the fraternity. That is what being in a fraternity should be about, the unending bonds. Look, as you get older you are going to get to a point where you are no longer interested in partying. You will also if you are fortunate find a woman you will marry and spend the rest of your life with. Partying and girls might be important now, but not for the rest of your life. Your Brothers on the other hand will. It should be all about the connections you feel, not who has the best parties or hangs out with the prettiest girls.

This was the main thing I was looking for in brotherhood. You actually described it down to the tee. Im going to go ahead and finish this story though. If anyone knows how to quote my whole story, please do that it would be much appreciated.
Thursday was the first day we could of receive bids. I went to Black first and they all were cool. As I was leaving i was offered a bid. I told them i was making no decisions until friday though.
I then went to Red. Immediately was offered a bid. Told them the same thing though.
Then I went to Orange I was having a great time, one of my friends was offered a bid. I waited a little . But no bid was offered to me at the time.
Blue, they had a nice setup and i was offered another bid, i told them the same thing though. I was waiting.


Friday night I was invited back to all the fraternities. I went to Orange first. i was enjoying myself but after about an hour or so, i realized that I was not going to recieve a bid. They were my first choice in my opinion at that time.

I decided to cut Blue because i felt they just didn't have the brotherhood I was looking for.

So it was down to Red and Black... i picked.....




Black and am now pledging Sigma Chi ΣΧ

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by greek22

Black and am now pledging Sigma Chi ΣΧ

Awesomeness.

Sigma Chi has always been my "fraternity crush."

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Hmm, not quite sure how to take this.

I'd simply take it that he's in college and wouldn't be opposed to parties that he'd consider fun coming along with the brotherhood.

Do you blame him?

Originally Posted by TSteven

Once you go Black, you never go back.

Had you cracked the code and figured out that Black = Sigma Chi already?

Originally Posted by greek22

So it was down to [COLOR=Red]Red [COLOR=Black]and Black... i picked.....




Black and am now pledging Sigma Chi ΣΧ

Congrats!!

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by greek22

This was the main thing I was looking for in brotherhood. You actually described it down to the tee. Im going to go ahead and finish this story though. If anyone knows how to quote my whole story, please do that it would be much appreciated.
Thursday was the first day we could of receive bids. I went to Black first and they all were cool. As I was leaving i was offered a bid. I told them i was making no decisions until friday though.
I then went to Red. Immediately was offered a bid. Told them the same thing though.
Then I went to Orange I was having a great time, one of my friends was offered a bid. I waited a little . But no bid was offered to me at the time.
Blue, they had a nice setup and i was offered another bid, i told them the same thing though. I was waiting.


Friday night I was invited back to all the fraternities. I went to Orange first. i was enjoying myself but after about an hour or so, i realized that I was not going to recieve a bid. They were my first choice in my opinion at that time.

I decided to cut Blue because i felt they just didn't have the brotherhood I was looking for.

So it was down to Red and Black... i picked.....




Black and am now pledging Sigma Chi ΣΧ

Congratulations on going for the right brotherhood for you and selecting Sigma Chi. I hope your dad is supportive of your decision as well! Good luck with your new brothers.