for parents-rejection

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Recruitment has started in some parts of the country, and while I may be a relatively new poster on greekchat, I wanted to start a thread for the parents on this site, as it seems that there are a lot of them on here documenting their daughters’ recruitments. Personally, if my mother wrote about my recruitment on the internet for all to read when I went through it, I would’ve been a little creeped out by it, but if that’s what works for your daughters and makes them happy, then more power to you.

Life is a series of competitions, one after another, and rejection is a big part of that. You are always competing against someone to get into a school, on a sports team, into a sorority, for a role in the play, to get into a popular class that only has room for 30 students in it, for an internship, job, and so on. We understand that you love your daughters and think the world of them (hopefully, at least) and that they are all gorgeous, smart, funny, talented, and charismatic with great personalities and GPAs, but they may be rushing against hundreds of other girls that are also gorgeous, smart, funny, talented, and charismatic with great personalities and GPAs, not to mention being legacies. Please understand that sororities simply cannot take every girl who rushes, no matter how great she is. Somewhere along the line, rejection has to happen, and the more competitive that a school’s recruitment is, the more likely it is that your daughters will be rejected from the sororities that they want. Please understand that this is a fact of life, and do not think less of them. For some of your daughters, this may be the first time in their lives that they didn’t get exactly what they wanted. Please do not ask what they did wrong or why they got cut, because unless we were there at recruitment and actually met your daughters and sat in on the voting, then we don’t know, and even if we were there, our organizations’ policies (as well as our common sense) prohibit us from talking about it. Posters on greekchat can offer you sympathy, but not much more than that.

Best wishes to all of the girls going through recruitment this semester!