Is sex really that big of a deal?

[christiangirl]

James, I don't believe that's true, but I took a psych class about sexuality once, and out of the whole 100+ people in it, I was the only one who thought so. That's incredibly irksome, because it's like they're saying there's just no hope for me to have a post-high school relationship.

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You're a challenge for these fools. So how are you dating players?

I don't get it. Rephrase that please, I need a break down every now and again.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't get it. Rephrase that please, I need a break down every now and again.

Sweetheart,

You said you were a virgin, right? While I do not have issues with that most men find fantasize about being the cause (spelled cost) of a lose of a woman's virginity. It is the best thing to do since sliced bread. So, he can be a 1 hit wonder and that would be your concept of sex...

So you are attracting the "players" because they think--no fathom--that they're little shriveled up vienna sausage will "teach" you about the Universe of sex. Simply because they think you are naive. Besides, the word is out on you and your choice of virginity... You are the "Holy Grail" of sexual encounters...

You can take all the Sexuality classes you like that will teach you the mechanics and psychology associated with sex. But the truest essence of your own sexual expression has to be a manifestation of your Spirit... Otherwise, you are just going through the motions and you are letting a prick pervert masterbate and defecate on you...

A avoid the shock of sex as not being what it is all cracked up to be is to meditate using the Tantra. That is just one avenue. It takes you to a higher level in your mind. It assist you developing the kind of relationship skills to surpass those of vows. It keeps you true to yourself and your mate.

My question is to you is, have you been able to seduce the man your in your dreams? Not the man of your dreams--but the man who God is leads you to? Be mindful, sometimes God has a sense of humor...

In your post, I found your tone to be one of frustration by how men treat you by the endgame. They are doing that because you cannot be swayed from your beliefs. And they are shocked. They belittle YOUR choice of chastity to divert you into something God has not asked of you, yet.

So, are you beginning to waver? Here's your deal:

You are free from sexually transmited diseases, free from the anger and humiliation of some sexual encounters, and free of thinking that you can "Sport Fcuk"...

But you are relegated to being called a prude fascist, that you have no comparisons, and an old maid and you find yourself totally alone.

I want you tell the guy you like this when he pressures you, "I am waiting for you to be multi-orgasmic so that all my chakras are enlightented and heightened"

Then you need to say to him, "Thru our minds, we can explore errogenous zones when I slip my f-i-n-g-e-r-s coursing over your heart. In this way, we build on our goal that surpasses ejaculation..."

And you haveta say that crap very sexy like...

Let us know what happens?

Whatever you decided, should you choose to have sex, have your man or men wear a condom(s). And if you don't want children, take birth control.

Your friendly neighborhood Public Health Announcement for the Year.

Kindly,

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital

[AKA2D '91]

Onlee euw, Soror!

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by AKA2D '91

Onlee euw, Soror!

But you know I'm right...

[BlessedOne04]

Um yeah what AKA Monet said. Let me get my pen that is good material!!

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

[ThetaLove]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Is sex really such a big deal that you would pass up a good woman if you don't get it?

Yes and no. Sex is a very important part of a mature relationship. Unfortunately, the guys that bailed after finding out that you were not going to have sex with them either really weren't into you or were not looking for the kind of mature relationship that you were looking for. Now, I don't mean to say that a person who chooses to stop dating someone because of a difference in opinion about when sex is appropriate is a sex maniac or anything. They have that right to do as they please and at least they checked out before the relationship progressed.
I believe that you can have a healthy relationship without having sex. However, both people need to be upfront about their feelings... it seems like you were upfront and that is what caused the guy to flee.
Trust me, you will find a guy that is into you for who you are and will be willing to put his desires on hold until you are ready.

(sorry, I didn't read the entire thread so I hope I'm not jumping to conclusions.)

p.s.- I'm a virgin in a serious relationship with a non virgin.

[ziasha07]

Disclaimer: I skimmed the last few pages so foorgive me if I repeat anything...

Christian Girl: I feel you on the Hot Mess girls thing. Just because I'm not all up in a man's face, I don't have a rep, or I don't wear revealing clothes, I fly under dude's radar or I don't get noticed. I don't understand it.
(I participate in a lot of open speaking/Rap session type things and) Then a dude wanna step up and say that he wants a nice girl, that wifey type of female, one that you know is loyal and whoop-di-whoop, what not, blah blah. Then I see the same guy all up in somebody face that is skanky or has a rep.

I just wanna say that as a V-Card holder, I don't think myself as superior to any female that is not. I recognize that I'm a rare deal in some place and that's ok. I just have to know that dudes are going to be more wary of dating me because they feel or know that they won't/it will be hard for them to get some.

Lol. I'm just a nice girl, lookin for a nice dude to work with me.