Who Received a Bid After Going Through Recruitment More Than Once?

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Kevin

If that happened, your experiences are very atypical. I'm hoping no one reads this thread and gains a false sense of hope from it.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Unless something has changed dramatically since your first rush at the same school, you should not go in expecting better results.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Technically, I went through 3 times and received a bid. I got a bid the first time but things didn't work out. I rushed a second time and dropped out early on. Then I rushed as a Junior, got a bid and initiated.

This was all at a fairly competitive school with 18 sororities almost all of which were at total of around 135. I couldn't say how many girls went through rush but the number would be high.

I fully realize that my situation was unique and I was lucky with my outcome.

I don't mean this as a jab at your age, but it is relevant to mention that this was 25ish years ago!

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I don't mean this as a jab at your age, but it is relevant to mention that this was 25ish years ago!

LOL Yes, that's true and I should have included that bit of info!

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I think everyone who posted in this needs to also post:

-the amount of women who go through rush
-the percentage of people involved in Greek life at the school
-the average size of the chapters

I recieved my bid the second time I went through rush. I dropped out the first time after some crazy self-inflicted drama. I spent the rest of my freshman year making friends, getting involved in various clubs and groups, and going to class!

I re-rushed my sophomore year and recieved my bid. If I hadn't recieved a bid, I would have been okay- I still had my friends and my activities- I would say greek life didn't make my college experience, but it did enhance it.

At the time I went through at my school, recs weren't a big deal. Also, only about 20% of the campus was greek, so greek life was there, but not the end all be all. Our chapter size was 150 and pledge classes were 45-50 women. I'm not sure how many women went through rush, but I would say about 500 or 600?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by miss_etiquette

Ladies and gentlemen, let us not discourage anyone from going through rush. Everyone deserves to find a place that is right for each of us. You might have found it your first time but sometimes it takes longer to discover who we are as a person. There are variables at times, no fault of our own, that keep us from being part of Greek life. The purpose of going through recruitment is to find a home away from home and those forever bonded friends. We should not judge those who go through rush more than once or assume if they finally found a place that it was only because the chapter was small and undesirable. A true friend will make you part of the chapter not because of your high GPA or image but for the friendship they will hold in their hearts a lifetime.

Hello, miss etiquette.

[KSUViolet06]

We're not discouraging, just letting people know that rushing twice and getting a bid isn't something that a PNM should expect to happen. Sure it works for some, but we'd be remiss to tell people it works all the time.

[Senusret I]

Remiss.

I wonder how many times it needs to be said, though.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Remiss.

I wonder how many times it needs to be said, though.

Grammar fail. It has been a long week already.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by miss_etiquette

Ladies and gentlemen, let us not discourage anyone from going through rush. Everyone deserves to find a place that is right for each of us. You might have found it your first time but sometimes it takes longer to discover who we are as a person. There are variables at times, no fault of our own, that keep us from being part of Greek life. The purpose of going through recruitment is to find a home away from home and those forever bonded friends. We should not judge those who go through rush more than once or assume if they finally found a place that it was only because the chapter was small and undesirable. A true friend will make you part of the chapter not because of your high GPA or image but for the friendship they will hold in their hearts a lifetime.

What the fuck?

I smell spam.

[Gusteau]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I smell spam.

I smell a self-righteous GCer who thinks sock puppets are fun.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by miss_etiquette

Ladies and gentlemen, let us not discourage anyone from going through rush. Everyone deserves to find a place that is right for each of us.

And yet some people never get what they deserve, I suppose.

We should not judge those who go through rush more than once or assume if they finally found a place that it was only because the chapter was small and undesirable

There is a huge difference between judging and offering realistic advice.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Hello, miss etiquette.

At least she didn't call herself miss grammar. Her attempt at formal, Miss Manners-sounding, writing fails.

[ErinBee]

Originally Posted by miss_etiquette

Ladies and gentlemen, let us not discourage anyone from going through rush. Everyone deserves to find a place that is right for each of us. You might have found it your first time but sometimes it takes longer to discover who we are as a person. There are variables at times, no fault of our own, that keep us from being part of Greek life. The purpose of going through recruitment is to find a home away from home and those forever bonded friends. We should not judge those who go through rush more than once or assume if they finally found a place that it was only because the chapter was small and undesirable. A true friend will make you part of the chapter not because of your high GPA or image but for the friendship they will hold in their hearts a lifetime.

Girls come on this website looking for real advice, not a lets-all-hold-hands Lifetime story.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by ErinBee

Girls come on this website looking for real advice, not a lets-all-hold-hands Lifetime story.

Well my Lifetime Channel sorority experience involved holding hands until Jenna Von Oy fell off a building when we were being hazed. Thankfully they didn't use Sharpies when they circled our fat.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Well my Lifetime Channel sorority experience involved holding hands until Jenna Von Oy fell off a building when we were being hazed. Thankfully they didn't use Sharpies when they circled our fat.

Don't forget the finger-pricking and making out with Zach from Saved by the Bell.

[TriDLove]

I wasn't trying to get hopes up for people who were looking to go through the process more than once, I was simply curious to see who else was in my situation.

Not all of us make fantastic first impressions in stressful situations. Also, I realize that I was lucky, but I also worked hard to improve my weaknesses.

If you can handle rejection and understand it's a very high possibility, don't be afraid to try the process again.