A few questions...help please?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

Well with the way they were doing everything, I don't know. Maybe they did really want me as a sister or maybe they just wanted bigger numbers. But either way, I was a little turned off about how they were presenting everything.

Just as an FYI: There are some sorority members who may be new at talking to PNMs and are nervous, so they tend to talk more about the sorority rather than getting to know the PNMs (without realizing it). It's not something that is intentional all the time.

[als463]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

1. So today is the second night of rush at our school. Last night, we vistied 9 houses and narrowed them down to 7. When I got the houses who I was supposed to visit, I got two of the ones which I was iffy about and the two which I eliminated the night before. Please also note that the two I didn't want were REALLY desperate for girls to join (one is a new one and the other I just didn't feel a "connection" with). I was wondering something. I want to want until tomorrow night to see if the two I liked call me back. If they don't, should I drop it and re-rush next year? (Preferance Night and Bid Night aren't for a few more days.)

2. Exactly how do the sororities call back the girls? When I visited the houses, the RC would give us papers with our names and recruitment ID # on it. When we were paired up with a girl from the sorority we were visiting, we would give her paper and she would do something with it. What do they do with the paper? And how do they decide?

3. If you listed yourself as legacy, do they actually check it? I'm a legacy in two of the sororities. Both of which I was dropped from and I found it weird because I thought I had a connection with one of them.

I appreciate all the help I can get with these questions.

By the way, my school is UC Irvine (UCI).

There's that "I didn't feel a connection" crap, again! Stop with that bad attitude and thinking you are "too good" for these other houses that were supposedly "desperate" for a girl. I wish those chapters luck in finding incredible women who don't have your attitude.

Don't just drop out. Why are there so many girls coming on the board now saying they want to drop out? Is this the generation that is next in line? I can't even imagine just dropping out because I didn't get all the chapters back I wanted. If you really care about being Greek (and you need to think about what being Greek even means-it isn't just popularity and parties) then you will give every chapter an equal shot. If you don't-I will not feel bad for you because you were too much of a snob to accept your bid and give those women the opportunity to show you what great things can come out of being in an NPC.

P.S. I doubt those girls were "desperate"-I just think you need to get over yourself.

[Bella796]

Does anyone else think the OP lied about being a legacy and they found out and dropped her b.c of that? just reading between the lines, not sure why anyone would ask something like that.

Also to the OP, maybe what you find "desperate" is actually the organization's love and enthusiasm for their chapter. They probably feel you would be a great fit and are conveying that in being overly enthused. I think you should think about the reasons you want to join a sorority, if you only want to join the "top" house or the house with the prettiest girls etc.. you should know that as you get older these things matter less and less. Try to look at the big picture and what lifetime sisterhood and bonds mean. Trust me when I tell you that it is not about who wins homecoming, or does socials with the best fraternities. Every sorority stands for something much deeper and it's the life lessons and rituals that make you want to be a better person that really matter.

Good luck but I think you need to change your attitude and figure out what you really want.

[jf_eighty9]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Just as an FYI: There are some sorority members who may be new at talking to PNMs and are nervous, so they tend to talk more about the sorority rather than getting to know the PNMs (without realizing it). It's not something that is intentional all the time.

I actually think you might be right. They're sort of new on campus (established about a few years ago) so it totally makes sense.

Originally Posted by Bella796

Does anyone else think the OP lied about being a legacy and they found out and dropped her b.c of that? just reading between the lines, not sure why anyone would ask something like that.

I wouldn't lie about being a legacy. It's like what Kansas_City said. My parents weren't in the Greek system but my cousins were. I listed them down and I guess it's not considered "legacy" at my school.

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Originally Posted by als463

There's that "I didn't feel a connection" crap, again! Stop with that bad attitude and thinking you are "too good" for these other houses that were supposedly "desperate" for a girl.

The house that I didn't feel a connection with IS a top house, but I'm not sure if it's worth it if I couldn't even keep a conversation going with some of the girls.

[UGAalum94]

It's probably not a "legacy" anywhere, but some chapters might give a cousin special consideration.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

I actually think you might be right. They're sort of new on campus (established about a few years ago) so it totally makes sense.

Right. This is something they've never done. So I wouldn't call it "desperation," so much as just being inexperienced.

I personally wouldn't discount them in the middle of recruitment. As I said before, dropping out and rushing again next year does not always yield a different or better result.

I suggest staying in recruitment at least until Preference and just seeing what happens.

[myopicsunflower]

Originally Posted by jf_eighty9

1. So today is the second night of rush at our school. Last night, we vistied 9 houses and narrowed them down to 7. When I got the houses who I was supposed to visit, I got two of the ones which I was iffy about and the two which I eliminated the night before. Please also note that the two I didn't want were REALLY desperate for girls to join (one is a new one and the other I just didn't feel a "connection" with). I was wondering something. I want to want until tomorrow night to see if the two I liked call me back. If they don't, should I drop it and re-rush next year? (Preferance Night and Bid Night aren't for a few more days.)

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By the way, my school is UC Irvine (UCI).

Regarding re-rushing next year...honestly, your chances are probably best now. While sophomores and juniors do receive bids at UCI, freshmen make up the bulk of new member classes. The sororities that asked you back liked you. I'd give them a chance.

I also have to say...discretion is a good thing.