Why you didn't make it into a sorority.

[33girl]

Originally posted by gem_star17
thanks for your insightful reply, HC.... i could see a chapter giving a bid to a pnm that only half the chapter liked but if the pnm still made no attempts to fit in after rush then why even give the girl a bid just to make quota? isn't it painfully obvious that she's just after the letters? an "unpopular" PNM and a crappy pledge are two TOTALLY different things.

Well after rush, and after you've bid her, and she is a crappy pledge you're kind of stuck, unless she does something REALLY heinous.

And sometimes it has nothing to do with having to fill quota, sometimes it has to do with some of the sisters saying "well I know her and she's faboo" and the others not liking her, or another PNM whom no one knows anything about or has gotten enough of a read on her to tell what she'll be like. In other words, better the devil you know.

[kddani]

bump b/c there's been a lot of threads along these lines lately...

[Scandia]

I went to a huge school in the South, the University of Florida, that had a very large and competitive Greek system. I was a sophomore when I rushed.

And I was socially awkward back then. I may not have been in high school anymore, where I was the class nerd. I may have gotten treatment for PCOS and lost weight and gotten nicer clothes. I may have had more friends and belonged to various activities, including A Phi O. But one does not acquire perfect social skills from one day to the next. I think this may have been the main reason. My social skills are much better now. I make friends more easily and do interact well at parties and gatherings.

I had a few funny mishaps at Rush. I took a napkin accidentally from one house with my drink- but I was told on time it was against policy. I tripped on the steps of another house. I spitted water accidentally in a third one. One of the Rho Chis told me that she spilled a glass of water once when she rushed- she did not get invited to that house either.

I did not have any recommendations. I knew people in a couple houses, but not super closely. And I did not get to see them during Rush because the chapters were so big.

My folks were not too convinced about it either. So it may have been for the best that it did not happen back then. But now I am on my own and can afford to belong to a sorority.

I still enjoyed going through Rush and getting to meet all the 16 sororities that were in my school back then.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally posted by honeychile
To this day, whenever asked, I have said that, if a large number of sisters dislike someone - not on the fence, but dislike - DROP HER!!!

I've obviously had to leave parts out, but the bottom line is this:
No one woman is worth the destruction of your chapter. NO ONE!

Agreed.

And we're not talking about a grey area, we're talking about quite a few people not liking a PNM. It's not that they have no opinion of her (which is not uncommon), they have a negative opinion of her..............

[Pessimist Null]

Originally Posted by SigK_Bama

Nope, not that I remember. We expelled her and sent a collections agency after her to get money we were owed, but I don't know if we ever got anything. Last we heard from her mom, she was somewhere in Arizona.

I'm not trying to doubt or contradict you but my brain = about this.

How could it be a homicide and an OD. And no wonder that girl is screwed up, she has a dead boyfriend

[KSUViolet06]

It's August, this one deserves a bump.