How is your relationship with your parents?

[newbie]

Hmm..good question!

I'm not exactly sure how to reply, since my parents and I have had our share of major up's and major down's. I love them to death - I pray that nothing bad will ever happen to them, as I don't know what I would do without them! I hate to admit this, but sometimes I take them for granted. I have not been the nicest, shall I say, to them in the past sometimes. Sometimes I hurt them unintentionally, through my actions or my words, like, "Whatever! What do you know about MY life?"

I would love to say that my parents and I have the best-friend-type relationship. Unfortunately, we don't. There are times when i wish that they would just stop bothering me or stop being SO darn overprotective of me. I wish that they would let me be freer. There are other times, though, where I feel so hurt b/c they don't understand what I'm going through, as they grew up in a different country, where it is SO traditional and basically you didn't date till you were like 21. And it was study time, all the time. Sometimes, I wish that I had the parents of my best friend, or my other good friends - they seemingly have the best parents in the world, who are there for them no matter what, but also know when to let go.

I guess I would say my relationship with my parents is OK. Sometimes it seems like it's a little strained, but sometimes we seem to get along together SO well. But sometimes, I just hate all those expectations that they throw on me! There are other times when I just wish that they would hug me and reassure me that things will turn out all alright - unfortunately, they were brought up the "formal" types, where they sort of keep their distance away from you. When I cry, my parents even tell me to stop crying and ask why the heck am I crying for. They just don't get it that I just need someone to listen to me at this time in my life.

Last but not least, no matter how much I complain about them, I love them SO very much - and I hope that they will be on earth till their oldest ages. Because even though they can be mean or annoying (unknowingly) sometimes, I know that they really do want the best for me!!!

P.S. I really hope that saying about how everyone turns out like their parents isn't true - though I love my parents dearly, I would hope to be a better parent to my children!!!!!

[This message has been edited by newbie (edited July 13, 2001).]