How is your relationship with your parents?
 

Since many of us are home for the summer, dealing with the parental units, I've been wondering what other people's relationships with their parents are like.

I love my parents, they are the most awesome people! Ive been allowed to do basically what I wanted since I was 13, and so, its all good! All my friends think that my parents are the best!!
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I'm an alum, but I'll answer from pt of view of college summers home.

I always had a great relationship with my dad, and when my parent divorced, I spent times home living with him. (Parents have since remarried...each other.)

Mom and I had a TOUGH time dealing with one another in college. Took until I was about 25 for us to find our way back to one another. She just thought back then I should do everything on my own, and while I appreciate the value in this thinking--an 18 yr old away from home for the first time NEEDS help and support from home. Dad gave it, he was great, perfect, amazing, incredible, the BEST. Mom didn't get it then. She does now, I think. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif We have a great relationship now. My parents are both great--but it gets easier, I think, once you're totally grown up and totally on your own.

i am truly blessed - my parents rock!
but not in the sense that they don't care what i do or give me whatever i want. my parents and i have a great relationship that comes from love. i love my parents and they love me back - and we show each other that through words and actions everyday. from their lovei have learned a new respect and a friendship with my parents. they are the smartest people i know - they've been there and done that - BUT they let me make choices and often enough mistakes on my own because they know that is the only way i will really learn. however, they are there for me when i make mistakes and they support me and my sisters through everything and anything. my parents have always given me everything i have needed without giving me everything i've wanted - which i think is so important. it taught me to what to value. As i'm growing up, i'm realizing more and more how lucky i am to have my parents http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

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I guess I'm pretty lucky on the parental front. My dad and I are more like best friends than father/daughter and I love my mom, but she can be a nag. When I'm home all summer, my parents start to drive me crazy, but I think that's almost natural.

I am 26, and don't live at home, so on the summer issue I cannot relate. I can say that I love my parents to death and miss them. They live about 4 hours from me and I don't get to see them as often as I'd like. My mom is my best friend and I talk to her about 6 xs a day. My father and I are repairing our relationship. We had real issues when I was a kid and as we get older we usually can deal with our parents on a more equal level and that's what I'm doing with them now...

I live 30 minutes from my school, so I live with my parents all year round. heh, summer's got NOTHIN on livin with them during the academic year. my relationship with my folks has always tried to be one of respect and tolerance of independance. it took them a while to get used to me coming and going at all hours of the night (esp during my pledge period), but we all made it work as best we could.

its been rough at points, such as me consistenly failing to remember to take out the garbage (You can remember 20 famous Tekes, but can you remember to take out the trash every tuesday?!!?!? NOOO), but we muddle through as best we can.

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Hm...I must be in the minority here, or the only one speaking up.

Most of the time, my relationship with my mom is okay. If she's in a good mood, we get along just fine, and are like best friends. That's how it used to be before I was about 17. Then I started getting more friends of my own, and not hanging out with only her.

Since then, things have been different. She has a job she hates, and is pretty much depressed all the time. She complains constantly, and doesn't actually listen to me when I talk - she just uses what I'm saying to launch stories of how miserable her day was.

Being home is just like being 10 again. She tells me if I'm up too late. I don't dare go out after a certain time or return after a certain time. Last night she was even telling me how I should spend my money to "help her out" because she pays for a lot.

One month and 10 days till I go back to school http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Hmm..good question!

I'm not exactly sure how to reply, since my parents and I have had our share of major up's and major down's. I love them to death - I pray that nothing bad will ever happen to them, as I don't know what I would do without them! I hate to admit this, but sometimes I take them for granted. I have not been the nicest, shall I say, to them in the past sometimes. Sometimes I hurt them unintentionally, through my actions or my words, like, "Whatever! What do you know about MY life?"

I would love to say that my parents and I have the best-friend-type relationship. Unfortunately, we don't. There are times when i wish that they would just stop bothering me or stop being SO darn overprotective of me. I wish that they would let me be freer. There are other times, though, where I feel so hurt b/c they don't understand what I'm going through, as they grew up in a different country, where it is SO traditional and basically you didn't date till you were like 21. And it was study time, all the time. Sometimes, I wish that I had the parents of my best friend, or my other good friends - they seemingly have the best parents in the world, who are there for them no matter what, but also know when to let go.

I guess I would say my relationship with my parents is OK. Sometimes it seems like it's a little strained, but sometimes we seem to get along together SO well. But sometimes, I just hate all those expectations that they throw on me! There are other times when I just wish that they would hug me and reassure me that things will turn out all alright - unfortunately, they were brought up the "formal" types, where they sort of keep their distance away from you. When I cry, my parents even tell me to stop crying and ask why the heck am I crying for. They just don't get it that I just need someone to listen to me at this time in my life.

Last but not least, no matter how much I complain about them, I love them SO very much - and I hope that they will be on earth till their oldest ages. Because even though they can be mean or annoying (unknowingly) sometimes, I know that they really do want the best for me!!!

P.S. I really hope that saying about how everyone turns out like their parents isn't true - though I love my parents dearly, I would hope to be a better parent to my children!!!!!

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I don't speak to my father at all. We completely ignore each other when we see each other in the house and I have basically "disowned" him. I want nothing to do with him. He was terribly abusive to me my entire life and I began to speak up when I was 18, 5 years ago. Since then things have been bad, but about 2 months ago I let him have it and told him that I hate him. It may sound harsh, but it was a necessary move to keep my sanity. I will have nothing to do with him for the rest of my life.

I talk to my mom but we have never had a close relationship. I blame her for never stopping my dad from what he did to me. I can't forget it.

I seem to be in the minority here. Everyone seems to get along with their parents. I really wish I did. They never showed me affection at all and therefore I have trouble expressing it to others.....

At least I know what I WON'T do when I have kids...

My parents and I have a wonderful relationship that I am thankful for everyday. Its a good thing too since i live at home. So many of my friends cant understand how i like living at home since they couldnt wait to leave after high school graduation. My parents are always there for me and just want the best. They are not the type of parents that dont care about where you are going or when you will be back. I used to not like that part, but looking back at my high school years, i am glad they did care. Even now, i think because i still live at home, i am treated like a child but i wouldnt really think they will ever treat me as a full grown adult and not ask me where im going and what time ill be back while living in their house. I am truly grateful for them! I love them so very much!! I love my brother very much as well! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

This is a very interesting topic. Well, I guess you could say I have not totally grown up LOL. I probably never will....... and will always have the little kid in me. That does not mean however that I have a bad relationship with my parents or that they treat me any less as a kid. I think we go through our good and bad times like most family members do. I'm 29, dont laugh, yeah, I suppose its not the norm but its just worked out that way(I live with my parents still) and I'm trying to save money while I commute/work. ha ha. Well, I'm trying to work in that direction.

I'd say when I was younger I was closer to my mom(in many ways we are alike-we both like to argue) but now I'm very close with my Dad. My Dad was quite different when he was younger and in active duty in the Marine Corp(Officer). Hes very laid back now and we're more eye to eye when we talk just about anything compared to when I was in h.s. or in college. My parents met at a bar(Bayou) in DC and got married a few months after that(69). My parents were really good to me and still are and would break their neck for me(not literally) and so would I for them. My Mom played a big part of my recovery after the surgery I had two years ago and she really helped me out. We definitely have our moments but we all love each other. Yes, Family is very important to me.

Kevin

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Well, my relationship with my partent is amazing. They have always been there for anything that I have wanted or needed. They even took me out drinking on my 20th B-Day. For the bast two years of my college career, I have gone to school in the same town that my parents lived. I never lived with them (fraternity house) but I have always gone home frequently to visit, hang out, do laundry, etc... But this summer they moved to Georgia, about 7 hours away. It has been a shock to realize how much I miss them and my brother (younger blood brother). We are an extreemly close family. But now I am homeless. Georgia will never be my home. So all I have left are my brothers and Lambda Chi.

Now I feel like I am giving a speech at rush.

Where in Georgia did your parents move? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

They moved to LaGrange, Georgia. It's on 85 about an hour south of Atlanta. It's a nice place. The people down there are really good people.

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