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Originally posted by AGDee
One of the biggest factors in me wanting to work no matter what was NOT wanting to be dependent on someone else. There are no guarantees in this world and if you're just depending on HIM and his income, you are vulnerable. Divorce, disability or death could make you bankrupt in no time.
Lastly, I think that either way, there are people who look down on you. SAHM's definitely make comments about moms who work and vice versa. There are pros and cons to both, but for me, more than anything, I'm not willing to risk being financially dependent on anybody, ever.
Dee
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It is scary to think of where I would be should anything happen to my darling husband. We have lots of large insurance policies - for both disability and death. I really can't say much on the divorce - I don't see us ever heading down that road but if we should traverse it, I feel confident in my own abilities to land a job that would take care of mine and my childrens needs. I also know some mean divorce attorneys!
Perhaps this is part of what the article referred to - women today do feel more confident in the choice to stay at home, and if the provider is unable to provide, then they have degrees to take care of themselves if they need to. Unfortunately, this was not the case for most of our mothers.
For me personally, I don't feel dependent on my husband. Everything is both of our names - all bank accounts, cars, house, etc. He is self-employed, and we have good years and bad years. We have learned to save up during the good years so that we will have plenty to fall back on during the off years. Our finances are a partnership, just as our home life is. I keep things running smoothly on one end - groceries, cooking, cleaning, laundry, children etc and he keeps things going on the other so he can deposit a check each month.
I have experienced both sides - working with a child, and staying at home with my children. My own preference is to stay at home. The great thing is that we all have the choice, and most of us are flexible enough to be able to work at home or go out and get a job should we need one. It is difficult no matter which side of the fence you sit on, and we as women should be respectful of both sides. At least we do have a choice!
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