What do you feel like saying, right now?

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I saw this earlier but didn’t respond because I don’t even know what this means. GC has had a history of posting unicorns with rainbows shooting out the back, and everyone who knows my posts and/or me IRL and my history on here knows my stance and convictions on “the rainbow”. I don’t think that’s what you meant, but it was the first thing that crossed my mind. Not laughing.

LMAO! I hollered. I’m weak y’all LOL. I was paying you a compliment. I know your posts and I’m one of the GCers who met you IRL. Ate with you. When I called you a unicorn, I’m saying that you’re a rare dude, especially among the D9. You didn’t like the nightclub at that young of an age, college, so I called you a unicorn.

You graduated from an HBCU and pledged a fraternity there. The player fraternity too. That’s like being a Navy seal who’s also a monk LOL! Dude, after meeting you IRL and reading your posts over the years, I’ve picked up that you’re not driven by validation. Most D9 dudes, especially in undergrad get pulled in by that kind of energy - attention, popularity, women, social scenes. You? You stayed low key. Didn’t need the club, didn’t chase the spotlight, and weren’t out to prove anything. At an HBCU, you could’ve played the pretty boy role. Easily. You could’ve soaked up attention just by showing up. You had the option to leverage your looks like others do and chose not to. You had the spotlight in your hands and didn’t even care to turn it on. That’s uncommon. Even more so when you actually have the looks and presence to be front and center if you wanted. A pretty looking dude with good hair in the “pretty boy” fraternity (and I’ve seen some ugly ass Krappas) at an HBCU, that’s chick magnet all day. Yet, you still didn’t run through chicks like that. I would have LOL.

Then, you have an artistic, detail obsessed mind. Your real cars, your model cars, your dioramas, your car designs, boat designs, and other shit you draw, that’s not just career and hobby stuff. Bro, that’s intellectual craftsmanship. It’s rare to find a D9 dude, or really, any dude, with that level of patience, focus, and storytelling behind physical creations. That comes from emotional depth, imagination, and discipline. That’s elite-tier rare in fraternity culture. You ARE a unicorn LOL. You’re spiritually anchored too. You lead with God, you stay grounded, and you don’t follow trends. In a culture where a lot of folks talk values but live for attention, your walk is consistent. For real. That puts you in a different class, especially among D9 dudes who often get praised for image more than substance.

You’re also layered. Dude, you can chop it up about racing and models, drop biblical knowledge, call out BS with surgical clarity, and still joke like a regular dude. That blend of intellect, masculinity, and wit is extremely rare, not just among black men, but dudes period. In the Divine 9, you’re the dude people remember but never fully understand. That in itself is chick bait Lol. You don’t fit the mold. You’re not loud, not passive, not overly polished, not wild, you’re just real bro. And that realness is magnetic, intimidating, and unforgettable. You’re not just rare for the D9. You’re rare for dudes, period. That’s why folks on here who met IRL had good things to say about you. For real. I can’t speak for others who met you IRL on here, but that’s what I left with after hanging out with you.

Now sit your ass down and get up with the times…. UNICORN! Lol.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

LMAO! I hollered. I’m weak y’all LOL. I was paying you a compliment. I know your posts and I’m one of the GCers who met you IRL. Ate with you. When I called you a unicorn, I’m saying that you’re a rare dude, especially among the D9. You didn’t like the nightclub at that young of an age, college, so I called you a unicorn.

You graduated from an HBCU and pledged a fraternity there. The player fraternity too. That’s like being a Navy seal who’s also a monk LOL! Dude, after meeting you IRL and reading your posts over the years, I’ve picked up that you’re not driven by validation. Most D9 dudes, especially in undergrad get pulled in by that kind of energy - attention, popularity, women, social scenes. You? You stayed low key. Didn’t need the club, didn’t chase the spotlight, and weren’t out to prove anything. At an HBCU, you could’ve played the pretty boy role. Easily. You could’ve soaked up attention just by showing up. You had the option to leverage your looks like others do and chose not to. You had the spotlight in your hands and didn’t even care to turn it on. That’s uncommon. Even more so when you actually have the looks and presence to be front and center if you wanted. A pretty looking dude with good hair in the “pretty boy” fraternity (and I’ve seen some ugly ass Krappas) at an HBCU, that’s chick magnet all day. Yet, you still didn’t run through chicks like that. I would have LOL.

Then, you have an artistic, detail obsessed mind. Your real cars, your model cars, your dioramas, your car designs, boat designs, and other shit you draw, that’s not just career and hobby stuff. Bro, that’s intellectual craftsmanship. It’s rare to find a D9 dude, or really, any dude, with that level of patience, focus, and storytelling behind physical creations. That comes from emotional depth, imagination, and discipline. That’s elite-tier rare in fraternity culture. You ARE a unicorn LOL. You’re spiritually anchored too. You lead with God, you stay grounded, and you don’t follow trends. In a culture where a lot of folks talk values but live for attention, your walk is consistent. For real. That puts you in a different class, especially among D9 dudes who often get praised for image more than substance.

You’re also layered. Dude, you can chop it up about racing and models, drop biblical knowledge, call out BS with surgical clarity, and still joke like a regular dude. That blend of intellect, masculinity, and wit is extremely rare, not just among black men, but dudes period. In the Divine 9, you’re the dude people remember but never fully understand. That in itself is chick bait Lol. You don’t fit the mold. You’re not loud, not passive, not overly polished, not wild, you’re just real bro. And that realness is magnetic, intimidating, and unforgettable. You’re not just rare for the D9. You’re rare for dudes, period. That’s why folks on here who met IRL had good things to say about you. For real. I can’t speak for others who met you IRL on here, but that’s what I left with after hanging out with you.

Now sit your ass down and get up with the times…. UNICORN! Lol.

Man, I read that whole thing twice. That hit different. You didn’t just gas me up, you saw me. And coming from somebody who knows my posts and has actually sat down and broken bread with me, that carries weight.

I’ve never moved for attention. I just try to stay grounded, walk in truth, and let my actions speak. So to hear that came through, that it’s been noticed over the years, that meant more than you know.

You didn’t have to say all that, but you did. And it landed. I appreciate the words, the respect, and the way you laid it out. For real. Salute, Phroze.

But if you think I’m rare, valuable, or one-of-a-kind, just say that. 😂 I’m direct. I speak in plain terms. So when someone says “unicorn,” my mind goes to everything that term’s been co-opted to mean, and none of it reflects who I am or how I want to be seen. A lot of modern slang is drenched in pop culture or innuendo that doesn’t align with my values.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Man, I read that whole thing twice. That hit different. You didn’t just gas me up, you saw me. And coming from somebody who knows my posts and has actually sat down and broken bread with me, that carries weight.

I’ve never moved for attention. I just try to stay grounded, walk in truth, and let my actions speak. So to hear that came through, that it’s been noticed over the years, that meant more than you know.

You didn’t have to say all that, but you did. And it landed. I appreciate the words, the respect, and the way you laid it out. For real. Salute, Phroze.

But if you think I’m rare, valuable, or one-of-a-kind, just say that. 😂 I’m direct. I speak in plain terms. So when someone says “unicorn,” my mind goes to everything that term’s been co-opted to mean, and none of it reflects who I am or how I want to be seen. A lot of modern slang is drenched in pop culture or innuendo that doesn’t align with my values.

Since you don’t like unicorn, I’ll use Krappacorn instead LOL!

[carnation]

Okay y'all, I've had members ask if I can have people tone down the personal insults in this thread. Whatever the insults are, you know if you're trying to zap someone--so don't.

[sigmagirl2000]

With all the hate flying in other threads, this is the one people are complaint about!??!

Oy vey.

[Phrozen Sands]

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

With all the hate flying in other threads, this is the one people are complaint about!??!

Oy vey.

Yeah, but what might not be insulting to us, could be to somebody else. We’re living in sensitive times now. You can’t say the things on GreekChat today that you could 10 or more years ago. I do think it’d be nice to know what was posted though so we’ll know what it is that needs to be toned down. I don’t believe anybody on this thread was intentionally trying to insult someone else personally.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Yeah, but what might not be insulting to us, could be to somebody else. We’re living in sensitive times now. You can’t say the things on GreekChat today that you could 10 or more years ago. I do think it’d be nice to know what was posted though so we’ll know what it is that needs to be toned down. I don’t believe anybody on this thread was intentionally trying to insult someone else personally.

Yep.
I used to be like super outgoing — like… “talk to anyone, always making new friends kind of outgoing”. But over the years, that’s changed. Not because I’ve become cold or anti-social, but because I’ve seen how unpredictable people can be. Sensitivities have gotten louder, assumptions fly faster, and sometimes even the smallest comment gets twisted into something it was never meant to be. It’s really exhausting.

So these days, I just keep my circle small, my family close, and like three coffee friends who’ve earned my trust. That’s it. Not because I don’t like people, but because emotional safety matters. Energy is expensive. And once you realize how rare it is to meet people who get you without misreading you, you stop offering access to everyone.

That’s also why I ignore most people outside my bubble now. I mean, it’s not weird energy or anything like that, it’s self-preservation. Know what I mean? I’ve learned that kindness doesn’t require openness, and maturity sometimes means knowing when to keep the door closed. If that makes sense.