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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
As a college professor, I am VERY familiar with the helicopter/snow plow parents, and the crippling effect their failure to let their children grow and mature has. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...ed-needinessWe have a secret FB group where we share stories about the lengths obsessive parents will go to in order to advance their snowflakes. Hilarious - and frightening. It's not just a problem for colleges, of course - http://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleyst.../#b25b66d35089
As a mother, I would be embarrassed if my 18 - 22 year old had to call me every day for advice. Passionate about my daughters? You bet - but I have my own life to live, so don't care to try and live through theirs. I prepared my daughters well, and my eldest is now going to England to complete two master's degrees after graduating with a 3.96, and my youngest is a level 2 sommelier at a 5 star restaurant. Can they call me for advice? Sure - but I've equipped them to be able to stand on their own two feet and think for themselves, so they don't feel insecure in making their own decisions, and I've treated them as being capable and independent from an early age. |
Oh my goodness, I apologize! I didn't realize I had stepped into a conversation about parenting styles. I had no idea there are parenting experts here that are qualified to judge my relationship I have with my daughters. (who by the way is attending college 800 miles away from home and is capable of a 4.0 gpa) Perhaps I should be apologizing to my children for ruining them. Glad I could add an entertaining "hilarious" topic to your secret FB page!
I thought we were discussing recruitment at Ole Miss! My mistake! So sorry if I assumed my experience would be helpful to other Ole Miss parents as their daughters go through recruitment.
In my experience, my own sorority, a sorority that I paid dues to and supported throughout the years, did not hold their Ole Miss chapter accountable to their national by-laws. According to my sororities national policy, legacies were to be invited to at least the first two invitational rounds as a courtesy, to get to know them better. My mother, my sisters, my oldest daughter and I all belong to this sorority (which will remain nameless). They dropped my youngest daughter after the first round. You want to talk about heartbreak. Not so much my youngest daughter, who had already set her sights on another sorority, but the rest of us were shocked. When I called our national chapter to discuss, I was told "Oh, we wish we had more control over that Ole Miss chapter, they just always do their own thing." !!!!! This is just one example, I could give others, but chose not to.
Ole Miss sororities are old and enormous and set in their ways. I cannot speak for my daughters sorority, but MY sorority apparently does there own thing without regard for all these policies you ladies are so quick to point out.
SWTXBelle, your sorority does not even have a chapter at Ole Miss! You may be an expert in all things Gamma Phi Beta, you may be firmly entrenched as an alumnae adviser for your sorority, but you cannot possibly have any idea what goes on behind the scenes at Ole Miss. None of us can possibly be experts in all sororities at all campuses nationwide!
Olemissdad was speaking from his experience. I am speaking from mine. You are speaking from yours. It is poor manners to assume your advice is the only advice people want or need to hear. Collectively, we all have useful advice. None should be dismissed.
For the record, I am a 48 year old woman who still calls her mother daily! Scandalous, I know!
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