You believe, but have no evidence to support, that he was referring to "target" and "older" chapters. At the very LEAST his "advice" is badly written, and our fear is that those with no background in sorority recruitment will be ill-informed and pessimistic. GC regulars with local and national experience have provided plenty of pragmatic advice in the stickied threads. There is no need for misinformation to continue to be spread, and of course we are going to correct it.
As a college professor, I am VERY familiar with the helicopter/snow plow parents, and the crippling effect their failure to let their children grow and mature has.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...ed-needinessWe have a secret FB group where we share stories about the lengths obsessive parents will go to in order to advance their snowflakes. Hilarious - and frightening. It's not just a problem for colleges, of course -
http://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleyst.../#b25b66d35089
As a mother, I would be embarrassed if my 18 - 22 year old had to call me every day for advice. Passionate about my daughters? You bet - but I have my own life to live, so don't care to try and live through theirs. I prepared my daughters well, and my eldest is now going to England to complete two master's degrees after graduating with a 3.96, and my youngest is a level 2 sommelier at a 5 star restaurant. Can they call me for advice? Sure - but I've equipped them to be able to stand on their own two feet and think for themselves, so they don't feel insecure in making their own decisions, and I've treated them as being capable and independent from an early age.
Being the mother of a sorority member is not the same thing as being a member, and whatever you may have heard from your daughters is not the same thing as being in the trenches, especially since members don't often see the whole picture as the alumnae advisors do. You note you were in a sorority, past tense, so by your own admission your personal experience was radically different and over 2 decades ago. Most of those who have responded are still active, and are still working within the system and have personal experience to draw on and use as a basis for advice. The goal of the long-time GCers I've seen post here is to help the most pnms find homes, so given their long history of commitment to that, they can be trusted to post about anything that might interfere with that.
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