Yet to be Themed Re-recruitment Story

[BGKdLady]

Originally Posted by robinseggblue

It does still depend on campus culture though doesn't it? If it didn't, how would BGKdLady's post be true? At my campus...if you didn't have recs you'd be cut completely. Not so true at other campuses...

And again, this was WAY back (not trying to date myself) in non-competitive midwest. At that time and place, it was a novelty to have a rec. I know I didn't have any going through except where I was a legacy. That said, I would in no way encourage the OP to go through a second time w/o them with how recruitment works today.

[honeychile]

I'll throw another spice into the pot. What if a PNM has thoroughly ticked off an alumna, somehow, somewhere? What's to stop that alumna from writing what we called a "no rec" on the PNM involved? Yes, I did have to handle more than one of those when I was Rec Chair. In one case, the PNM in question did not have any other recs to help her out - she was not invited back. In another, the PNM in question did have other recs - which meant that there was a call to the writer of the "no rec" and much other alumna discussion. That's as much as I feel comfortable saying, though. "No recs" are taken very seriously, and at least one other rec needs to exist to further the cause of the PNM.

[Pinecone]

If you all haven't chased her away on this thread I would be surprised. Darn it.

Ps I was in a good house at a school like the op's and if we had been shown refs for a sophomore going through rush we would have thought the person was a weirdo. At a small school you already know all the sophomores going through and some random alum's letter would have seemed like the oddest thing ever to throw in the mix. If a letter was needed later (I have no idea if it was) it would have been better to wait.

Pps there is something antiquated about letters. They seem like a white-glove way to ensure the person being considered is the "right kind" of person.

[33girl]

I don't think this is a person with the attitude of everything is going to bend to her will, I think this is a person believing the word of people she knows vs. strangers on the internet and defending her friends when people contradict them. Whether her friends really know what they're talking about or whether they are giving bad advice - maliciously or unmaliciously - is the real question.