Graduated GDI dating Sorority Girl

[GoldBows]

I'm going to have to agree with the other posters here, you are coming off as pretty clingy and insecure. It's only 8 days - if you don't think your relationship can stand that much time apart then it must not be a very strong one to begin with. My SO and I are in a similar boat, as I am an active sister and he is not Greek. The thing is, he understands that during a time like recruitment, I do have to put my sorority first because it is a commitment I made long before I met him. I then understand that he has commitments he needs to put first like his position on Student Council or in the Engineering Students' Society.

OP, think of it this way. If she were going on vacation for 8 days, would you feel the same way?

[geedeamonggreek]

Originally Posted by GoldBows

I'm going to have to agree with the other posters here, you are coming off as pretty clingy and insecure. It's only 8 days - if you don't think your relationship can stand that much time apart then it must not be a very strong one to begin with. My SO and I are in a similar boat, as I am an active sister and he is not Greek. The thing is, he understands that during a time like recruitment, I do have to put my sorority first because it is a commitment I made long before I met him. I then understand that he has commitments he needs to put first like his position on Student Council or in the Engineering Students' Society.

OP, think of it this way. If she were going on vacation for 8 days, would you feel the same way?

I mean, yes and no. I have understood that this is more of a priority in her life than I am, and that's okay. If it was her being gone somewhere else, it's not a big deal. It is a little irritating that despite being within 5 minutes of eachother, we can't even really even make contact because the rules here are pretty harsh, and there's nothing we can do about that. It's like you want to open a gift for Christmas, but you can't wait until then. Or if you get a cookie from the cookie jar, but there's a lock on top.

It's childish I'm worrying about this, but we talked things out last night a bit, and everything will be okay. I know for a fact my priorities fire up as soon as recruitment is over however, as we have three-four sports kicking off at work, so I'm going to have more late nights and weekends to work than I did before. We just want to be committed to each other no matter what, and if I can wait a week (well, now looking like 2), then it'll be worth it in the end.
I just want her to feel the same way she saw me before, after recruitment and things slow down a bit. we both have priorities, we just happens to be each other's too.

[als463]

Originally Posted by geedeamonggreek

I mean, yes and no. I have understood that this is more of a priority in her life than I am, and that's okay. If it was her being gone somewhere else, it's not a big deal. It is a little irritating that despite being within 5 minutes of eachother, we can't even really even make contact because the rules here are pretty harsh, and there's nothing we can do about that. It's like you want to open a gift for Christmas, but you can't wait until then. Or if you get a cookie from the cookie jar, but there's a lock on top.

It's childish I'm worrying about this, but we talked things out last night a bit, and everything will be okay. I know for a fact my priorities fire up as soon as recruitment is over however, as we have three-four sports kicking off at work, so I'm going to have more late nights and weekends to work than I did before. We just want to be committed to each other no matter what, and if I can wait a week (well, now looking like 2), then it'll be worth it in the end.
I just want her to feel the same way she saw me before, after recruitment and things slow down a bit. we both have priorities, we just happens to be each other's too.

Your initial posts gave me diabetes from how sugary sweet you were talking about your relationship. You give off a creepy vibe--not just clingy. The fact you have a few pages of saying the same thing about not being able to live without her for about a week makes me concerned for her safety due to you being possessive. Don't ever join the military because this time away could be a harsh reality for longer than a week. If you keep acting like this, she is going to be dropping you like it's hot in a matter of months. Step away from the keyboard, prepare for graduate school, and find a hobby. There is nothing more unattractive than a needy boyfriend who can't deal with a girl hanging out with her friends.

[Pope]

Originally Posted by geedeamonggreek

I have understood that this is more of a priority in her life than I am, and that's okay.

It's good that you're okay with her prioritizing her sorority commitments over boyfriend time this week. She made a commitment to her sisterhood and she's standing behind her word. Would you really want to be with someone who casually bailed on her commitments? You should acknowledge and value the fact that she honors her promises to others, especially if you have long term intentions with this woman.

[geedeamonggreek]

Originally Posted by Pope

It's good that you're okay with her prioritizing her sorority commitments over boyfriend time this week. She made a commitment to her sisterhood and she's standing behind her word. Would you really want to be with someone who casually bailed on her commitments? You should acknowledge and value the fact that she honors her promises to others, especially if you have long term intentions with this woman.

She has honored her promises, not just with her sisterhood, but in everything else that she does.
I've just never been good with being bailed on, (this dates WAY back before I even met her) and sometimes just think of the past when I shouldn't. She's been upfront with plans with me, and that's something I appreciate, knowing how I can be a bit of a planner sometimes. (well... except one time in the spring and we had a trip planned.... then a "emergency meeting" was called the day before we left, but we both had busy weeks, and got over that, so it's okay.) It's the future, and I shouldn't base my opinions and feelings on getting bailed on by her based on people who have pissed me off in the past, that's just not healthy. I'll have my own commitments, she'll have her own commitments too, and we'll share our stories when we get back together after recruitment.