Not sure how I came across, could you guys give some advice?

[TSteven]

You were invited to an "after party" - which is normally a good thing. So it seems like there is interest.

Have you sent a "thank you" note (text, email) thanking them. If not, mybe a simple note letting them know you enoyed meeting them, had fun playing beer pong - "even if I wasn't that good at it". Keep it short and simple and maybe note that you hope to meet more of the members soon.

If you have one more day of open events before intives, then go to that event as well.

Keep a positive vibe and don't worry about the games and pong. In many cases, the members just want to see if you are "chill" (do the kids still use "chill").

Best of luck.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by TSteven

Have you sent a "thank you" note (text, email) thanking them. If not, mybe a simple note letting them know you enoyed meeting them, had fun playing beer pong - "even if I wasn't that good at it". Keep it short and simple and maybe note that you hope to meet more of the members soon.

And I'll add that when it comes to your pong-skills, self-deprecating humor usually plays well in my experience. It's not the end of the world if you suck at pong if you can laugh at yourself about it.

[sialater]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

And I'll add that when it comes to your pong-skills, self-deprecating humor usually plays well in my experience. It's not the end of the world if you suck at pong if you can laugh at yourself about it.

Thanks. I did send a thank you for introducing me message to two brothers I got numbers from. I just hope it'll be enough to get a bid, these guys are awesome. I just find it annoying and feel like I wasted an opportunity that I got invited to the house but just sucked ass at pong. I facetiously mentioned it to the brothers that I sucked and although one said that it's fine and I just have to get used to it it was pretty clear they didn't want me to play. Idk. You think I could salvage their impression of me at this last event? It's completely dry (initially) but it's hard to just go up and introduce yourself randomly at this point since they probably formed their impressions about everyone now. And if people are already getting bids this is probably a bad sign for me

[sialater]

Originally Posted by TSteven

You were invited to an "after party" - which is normally a good thing. So it seems like there is interest.

Have you sent a "thank you" note (text, email) thanking them. If not, mybe a simple note letting them know you enoyed meeting them, had fun playing beer pong - "even if I wasn't that good at it". Keep it short and simple and maybe note that you hope to meet more of the members soon.

If you have one more day of open events before intives, then go to that event as well.

Keep a positive vibe and don't worry about the games and pong. In many cases, the members just want to see if you are "chill" (do the kids still use "chill").

Best of luck.

That may be true but it was only the brother that liked me that invited me, and he didn't invite me until I saw people leaving and I went to say bye. Idk it just feels like maybe it was a spur of the moment thing rather than actually thinking I was cool.

[navane]

When one over thinks and tries too hard, it has the potential to come across as desperation in one's face, voice and mannerisms. Have confidence in yourself - smile, eye contact, laugh, have a good time and not worry about every last move or thing you say. Just do like TSteven said and be "chill".