Not sure how I came across, could you guys give some advice?

[Sciencewoman]

I'm hoping some fraternity men will offer some insight, but I'm just wondering how good the "fit" is with BBB? It doesn't sound like you enjoy the same things they do. I'm sure there are groups where you'd have shared common interests with the brothers. Would you rather play pong and video games for the next few years, or hang out with guys who are school and future focused, as you seem to be? You don't want to fake/force a "fit" that isn't real, and neither will the brothers. My gut tells me you'd be happier elsewhere -- is there time to do more research and attend other fraternity events?

[sialater]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I'm hoping some fraternity men will offer some insight, but I'm just wondering how good the "fit" is with BBB? It doesn't sound like you enjoy the same things they do. I'm sure there are groups where you'd have shared common interests with the brothers. Would you rather play pong and video games for the next few years, or hang out with guys who are school and future focused, as you seem to be? You don't want to fake/force a "fit" that isn't real, and neither will the brothers. My gut tells me you'd be happier elsewhere -- is there time to do more research and attend other fraternity events?

It's not quite that I don't enjoy the same things that they do. In fact, I enjoy console gaming a lot. It's just that I didn't play the same game that they were playing. Also, I have no problem with drinking games and playing it was actually fun (other than the fact I was complete shit at it). It's just that I had never done it before and it felt shitty that a lot of the rushes had done it before and it made me look bad. I get what you were saying about faking a fit but I don't believe the problem is as much as a lack of interest as it is a lack of experience. There isn't time to rush any greek frat at this point other than the one you've been consistently attending events for, so I really need to put my all towards this. Believe it or not, the brothers are actually very school oriented, they just also know how to have fun which is why I'm interested in joining them.