THE "bottom" sorority

[carnation]

ASTAlum, it is tantamount to social suicide on that particular campus not to have a house. It's part of the culture.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by carnation

ASTAlum, it is tantamount to social suicide on that particular campus not to have a house. It's part of the culture.

Originally Posted by pinksequins

Many thoughts, but here are a couple that may help. First, if it is an SE C university, the chapter WILL be getting a house. (Competitive housing is a must, and often the house will be new, large with ample opportunity for events and living in.). For now, she may have more opportunities to bond with other new members due to their weekly meetings and activities. She can reach out to some of them to see if they want to go for pizza afterwards or to a movie or other activity -- something outside of the planned sorority activities and impromptu or informal. The new member classes at SEC schools are huge. They meet regularly and are full of young women looking to make these new friendships. My hunch is that she can find and quickly make good friends with some new members, which in turn can make her feel good about her chapter.

I don't think anyone ever said that she should be happy with the group not having a house or that they should stay unhoused. The point is that there are many other ways to meet and bond with people other than living in a house. You have to do extra work in this situation. It sounds like the daughter is willing to do so.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't think anyone ever said that she should be happy with the group not having a house or that they should stay unhoused. The point is that there are many other ways to meet and bond with people other than living in a house. You have to do extra work in this situation. It sounds like the daughter is willing to do so.

No, Mom only said that the daughter was starting to enjoy the girls. And regarding your point, there may be some ways to bond but when it comes down to it, they will be rejected by many, many PNMs who want the sorority house experience.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by carnation

ASTAlum, it is tantamount to social suicide on that particular campus not to have a house. It's part of the culture.

Again, the OP didn't address the reputation of the chapter in relation to them not having a house. She asked how the sisters were supposed to get to know each other without one. I'm simply speaking to that.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Again, the OP didn't address the reputation of the chapter in relation to them not having a house. She asked how the sisters were supposed to get to know each other without one. I'm simply speaking to that.

Exactly. No one is saying a chapter that participates in regular rush at such a school will be successful long term without a house. THEY WON'T. But the mother made it sound like it was impossible for any of them to gather - even a fraction of the members - without a house.

What are the chapter's plans? What's the timeline? Is there temporary housing? Perhaps everyone saying "you don't know how it is" should be a little more forthcoming, since apparently everyone and their ferret knows what school this is.