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Originally Posted by amIblue?
I'd also like to point out that you don't know that the women that she knew from high school didn't fight for her. They just may not have been enough. I fought hard to the point of tears for a friend that I have had for 40 years (I don't remember not knowing her), who is seriously amazing and crazy impressive with her accomplishments. She has been a more true sister to me than anyone in my sorority over the years. My sorority chose to cut her from rush.
I am saying this because you and your daughter should not resent these girls. You just don't know what goes on in membership selection.
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Yes, yes, yes!!! They might have been in tears as they went to bat for your daughter-you don't know what happened and neither does your daughter. Nor will you-membership selection is secret.
You should be supportive of your daughter and her sorority. If her chapter has a parents club, join it. Go to Parents weekend. Do what you can to show your daughter how proud you are of her and her chapter. Send her a floral arrangement of the sorority flower (or in the sorority colors if their flower is hard to find) for initiation. Send her cookies in the shape of the chapter mascot.
Any new group has a hard time overcoming the "newness", but as the members get involved in other campus activities and the people who stubbornly cling to the old, established order discover all the smart, cute, sweet girls in the new chapter, things will shift.
If this chapter allows new members to join chapter committees, maybe your daughter can join the sisterhood committee. That committee usually plans activities for the chapter to do that build sisterhood. Things like chapter movie nights (they can probably use a ballroom in the student union), craft nights, potluck suppers, zumba class, salsa dance class, yoga, etc.
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