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Originally Posted by tld221
Please let me know if this is encroaching on membership selection/nonya business territory:
I've read over there years here that PNMs are somewhat discouraged (at the very least, not totally ENcouraged) to affiliate with their sorority if they transfer colleges. The idea seems to be that XYZ at University of GC and XYZ at GC State could be SO apples and oranges in terms of personality that it's not worth it. Or worse, the XYZs at GC State just aren't that into you (ranging from "she's so meh" to "what a hot messity mess!") and have jurisdiction to reject Transfer Tracy.
I also have read threads where current NPC members argue the logistics of transferring membership: having room in the house, quota numbers, difference in collegiate dues costs...
Of course this is apples and oranges in my NPHC brain, and perhaps I'm just not meant to understand. I just wonder about those transfer XYZ girls who probably could use their sisterhood, or a sister (or hundred) when coming to a new college. On the flipside, are collegiate members taught to welcome transferring members as their sister?
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I think it's not that potential transfers are discouraged from affiliating at their new college so much as they're told to think about their actions before taking them: if you transfer, affiliate, and then realize you don't fit in/can't afford it and have to resign your membership you will most likely be done with sorority life forever (barring the very uncommon reinstatement). If you transfer and don't affiliate you can keep your membership forever, although seeing a chapter of your sorority putting on events without you might sting a little. Because every chapter can be so different the best advice I've read about the situation if a girl transfers is to meet the new sisters for a semester after transferring and then make the decision to affiliate or not rather than doing so immediately and potentially regretting it.
Speaking for my chapter and my chapter only we welcome transfers with open arms. My Bid Day buddy (girl in the chapter that holds the welcome sign with your name on it on Bid Day and introduces you to girls she knows) was a transfer from our chapter at Furman University, and I think we also have transfers from USC and Winthrop as well. Things might be different at a school with a house or a live-in requirement, but as far as my chapter's concerned a sister is a sister no matter where she originated from.
ETA: DBB makes a good point about joining a chapter with the intent to transfer and affiliate at another chapter. That's not cool-it disrespects the sisters of the chapter you joined because you've essentially used them as an "in" to a more "prestigious" chapter at a different school without valuing the sisterhood you joined, and disrespects the sisters of the chapter you want to join because you've decided that they're somehow better than the other chapter despite probably not knowing enough of them to make that kind of judgement.
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