How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[DaffyKD]

I go crazy when I read about mothers who only want their snowflake to pledge their group and refuse to pay for any other. Each of us chose our chapters because we felt they were the right choice on THAT campus at THAT time. We each looked at the women who were currently active and based our decision on THOSE women. Our daughters are going through recruitment at a different time, often on different campuses and unless something is very very wrong, none of the women who were in the chapter when we joined are currently doing the recruiting.

I joined in the early '70's when chapters were closing faster than you could say "boo." My pledge class was extremely small by today's standards-- 14. The year after I joined we had a HUGE pledge class-- 22. In those days there was no problem taking a legacy at our school as 1) there were very few rushing and 2) we had plenty of room. Today with pledge classes often over 100 and over 200 legacies going through recruitment there has to be cuts. Those of us who are alumna members are not sitting in on the current membership selection meetings. We had our opportunity. I think it is MUCH tougher on the active members today because of the numbers going through recruitment and the number of helicopter moms who are hovering over not only their own daughters but the current chapter members.

In the end, I did not have to worry about my daughter being cut from Kappa Delta because she did not go through recruitment. Several KDs were good friends of my daughter and had no idea that her mother was a KD. They were attempting to get her to join through COB because they wanted HER not because she was a legacy. I found this out the year after she graduated when I met up with one of these young ladies at convention.

DaffyKD