Originally Posted by ukdzccd
As a chapter adviser, my advice would be if you are considering transferring for educational reasons, and have the possibility of affiliating with a different chapter of your same sorority, honestly that may be your best bet. It's very easy to dole out arm-chair advice about sticking with it and it's a lifetime commitment...yada, yada, yada, but we all know that sometimes the face that a sorority puts out during recruitment is not an accurate representation of what they are truly like once the big show is over and you get to the nitty-gritty of getting to know everyone. The attitude of the chapter with every new incoming member class can result in a shift in direction, so-to-speak, so it's not entirely unreasonable to think that maybe what you signed up for, wasn't what you ended up getting.
In Delta Zeta, you do not HAVE to affiliate if you leave your original school of initiation. So if you pledged/initiated at one school, found it didn't work for you and you wanted to switch, you could, and if you did not affiliate with the DZ chapter at your new school OR they didn't have one, you would become an alumna. Now, if you chose to affiliate, the DZ chapter at the new school would have to vote to accept your petition, so it's not a sure-thing, but it is an option.
It seems that you are very interested in the sorority, and in continuing your commitment that you made when you joined your particular group, but just not this group of women, and the above option, if it's possible for your sorority, might be the best way for you to retain your membership to continue as an alumna but not be in a chapter that you didn't mesh with as well as you expected you would.
Don't know if you are a DZ, but if you are, I'd be more than happy to answer any questions you might have.
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