Being in a sorority while being gay

[angels&angles]

I went to a school that's pretty conservative. Most gay members were in the closet when they rushed/while they were in school. That being said, even on such a conservative campus, with some VERY traditional Greek life (I would call is SEC-like, although that's only from what I've read here), I was surprised by how accepting everyone was of the members who came out. In my chapter, we had a girl who was dragged kicking and screaming out of the closet (her girlfriend outed her--she was not happy about it). It didn't really change anything.

I would clean up your facebook, but perhaps leave a few clues to your sexual orientation--join the LGBTQ group, indicate your preferences, and leave it at that. Actives will probably check your social media, and that may be enough. If you go to a school with deferred recruitment (rush is not at the beginning of school, but in the middle of the fall/in the spring/beginning of sophomore year), you will have time to get to know the actives before recruitment, and if you are discreet but not in the closet, they will all know your sexuality before rush and you won't need to bring it up at all.

With THAT being said, be aware that if you do join a sorority in a deferred recruitment system, you may be questioned and/or limited in who you date/hook up with. At my school, ALL freshman girls were considered PNMs during fall semester, and we had specific rules about how we could interact with them. Hooking up and/or dating would be a very, very tricky thing. So that's something to think about.

Recruitment is NOT about hiding who you are, but about being the best possible version of who you are.