Being in a sorority while being gay

[Sophiestication]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

If it's very important to you (and I'm questioning that since you don't seem to be 100% certain of your sexuality as you've described it here), then I wouldn't bring it up during round 1 or 2 of rush, but addressing it at round 3 is ok. If they have a problem with it, then they don't want to invite you to preference, but it is too serious of an issue to be discussing with 400 girls crammed in an insanely loud room.

I'm picturing the bad sitcom where you are sitting there during rush, screaming just to be heard by the girl sitting inches away from you, and just as you say I'M GAY the room goes quiet. The parties are much smaller after the first round or two, so at least THAT problem would be diminished. But be aware, the likelihood is you will befuddle the girl you're talking to, so mention it if you feel you must, but try to move on quickly. She doesn't have independent decision making authority so if it's an issue with the chapter, it will need to be discussed later. By bringing it up, you did your job. Then try to move on. If she wants to talk about it great, but remember, the rules of discretion still apply, so ladylike and no details that might be offensive to someone overhearing the conversation, and more than likely out of context.

Oh, definitely. Trust me, my anxiety-fueled brain has enough sitcom scenarios already thought up. From what y'all have said, I think if I went to a liberal school I could just assume acceptance and not make a big deal about it, because I wouldn't want others to make a big deal out of it.

From looking around, it seems like University of Minnesota is pretty accepting and has a greek system (also I have family up there). Does anyone know anything about the climate at that school?

[ASTalumna06]

While I agree that you shouldn't bring it up until a later round of recruitment (if you bring it up at all), I wouldn't TRY to bring it up. Let the conversation flow naturally. And know your audience. If you're talking to a sister and she seems uninterested, awkward, shy (yes, even sisters can have a hard time with conversation), then I would hold off. However, if you find yourself really connecting with the sister you're talking to, and the conversation "leads" that way, you MIGHT mention it.

And in my opinion, if the chapters are large enough - especially if they're over 100 members - I probably wouldn't mention it at all. In a chapter that big, you certainly won't be best friends with everyone, and you're bound to find at least a handful of girls (and probably more) who will be accepting and will become your good friends.

I think you're better off putting your faith in 100+ sisters than you are with one sister you talk to during Round 3 of recruitment who might find a way to keep you out of her chapter altogether, based on nothing more than your sexual orientation.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Sophiestication

From looking around, it seems like University of Minnesota is pretty accepting and has a greek system (also I have family up there). Does anyone know anything about the climate at that school?

The Twin Cities are pretty gay these days. I don't know much about the Greek system, but the chapters there are large enough that I think you could probably just ignore the haters.