Needing advice

[DubaiSis]

First, you are experiencing Unicorns Pooping Rainbows syndrome. You thought everything was going to be that, and it isn't. This is very normal. You'll adapt with time and things will smooth out for you. Everyone adapts, makes friends, feels comfortable, etc. at their own pace. And the girls who seem SOOOO much more in the group could be having a lot of the same misgivings as you. Don't give your feelings more significance than it deserves, which is SOME, but not TONS.

Second, talk to your NM Ed person, your chapter president, ANY sister who seems open to helping. You got a dud for a big (or whatever she's call at this level in your chapter). It happens, especially when chapters get more pledges than is typical. Don't let that ruin the rest of your sorority experience. You need to point out that you're not feeling welcome and you feel like you need someone who is more engaged in the chapter to help you in the process of growing that feeling of sisterhood.

In short, before you quit, put some time in to improve your situation. And step one is letting someone know how you feel. Yes it will feel uncomfortable and probably completely awkward, but if you're going to make it work you will have to stick your neck out.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

First, you are experiencing Unicorns Pooping Rainbows syndrome. You thought everything was going to be that, and it isn't. This is very normal. You'll adapt with time and things will smooth out for you. Everyone adapts, makes friends, feels comfortable, etc. at their own pace. And the girls who seem SOOOO much more in the group could be having a lot of the same misgivings as you. Don't give your feelings more significance than it deserves, which is SOME, but not TONS.

Second, talk to your NM Ed person, your chapter president, ANY sister who seems open to helping. You got a dud for a big (or whatever she's call at this level in your chapter). It happens, especially when chapters get more pledges than is typical. Don't let that ruin the rest of your sorority experience. You need to point out that you're not feeling welcome and you feel like you need someone who is more engaged in the chapter to help you in the process of growing that feeling of sisterhood.

In short, before you quit, put some time in to improve your situation. And step one is letting someone know how you feel. Yes it will feel uncomfortable and probably completely awkward, but if you're going to make it work you will have to stick your neck out.

This.

It doesn't sound like you're miserable; you just aren't feeling connected because the person who was supposed to help you feel included is MIA. I am willing to bet if you shared these feelings with the President or New Member Educator, they would be more than willing to help you out.

Just be careful what you say. You don't want to say anything bad about this "big" sister. Mention how great she was during recruitment, say that you understand she's busy, then discuss your feelings and concerns. Just don't make it sound like you're blaming her.